Two points jump out of the Gospel of John today: commandments and love. How are each of these related to living life as a disciple? Often, many who hear the word commandments, often react and are immediately put off. There goes the Church again telling me what I can and cannot do. Yet Jesus is connecting the following of his commandments to love.
Now love is another word that evokes reactions. One reason is that, even though the English language has a plethora of words to utilize and choose from, there is only one word for love and it is interpreted in many ways. In Ancient Greek, there are four words that are used to connote love. There is eros, which has do to with attraction. It is the beginning stage of love, because we are drawn out of ourselves as we are attracted to another. The next word for love is philios, which has to do with friendship. This is the love between friends. If our love matures it moves from attraction to friendship. The third word is storge, or the deeper love shared with family members. The fourth word is agape, which is unconditional love.
Jesus sharing that we are to follow commandments is not the dictate of a tyrant. He is providing the boundaries and parameters for us to grow and mature as people who love, who, in the words of St Thomas Aquinas, will the good of the other, as other. As human beings we are social beings. We want to belong, to be accepted, and to be a part of. We seek meaning, purpose and fulfillment in life. This is best done through cooperation and collaboration with God and with one another.
If we operate from a self centered posture in which we are only turned in on our self, and we only seek to manipulate and get from others, instead of working for consensus and sharing a common vision with others, we will ultimately be empty with the exchange on any level, because we will be left wanting more. This is true because once the immediacy of the stimulation, whether material, sexual, drugs, or alcohol, ends, so does the experience of the feeling. Some happiness may linger from the effect, but we will never be filled or satisfied from finite things, so we will seek more and more, until the pursuit of the instant and constant gratification ensnares us and we are entangled in the web of addiction.
The commandments, grounded in love, are meant to provide boundaries for us, training wheels, and to keep us free from enslavement to sin, while at the same time help us to be persons who mature to be other centered instead of self centered. They are meant to be a means of freedom for excellence such that we can become who we desire to be and who God calls us to be. God is not in competition with us. He is our biggest fan, and his glory is the human being fully actualized, fully alive.
Commandments and morality imposed without law is a bludgeon. Love and mercy without accountability and justice becomes enabling. Jesus provides the blueprint for a balanced both/and approach. May we seek this day for opportunities to be loving guides, to align ourselves with the Holy Spirit, who is the Love expressed and shared between the Father and the Son, seeking where we can improve our lives so to be more mindful and whole, to be honest with our weaknesses and where we need to seek forgiveness, while at the same time being understanding with others, meeting them where they are at and encouraging and walking with them such that we can support each other in the truth of who we are called to be.
Photo: Sanctuary of St Philip Catholic Church, East Windsor, CT, where I received my First Holy Communion – The Mass a beautiful expression of the both/and of Love and Commandment
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