“You have heard that it was said, You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy. But I say to you, love your enemies, and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your heavenly Father” (Mt 5:43-45). With these words, Jesus continues to raise the bar of discipleship and outlines what the pursuit of love truly is.
For many people, as Bob Dylan wrote and Joan Baez has sung, “love is just a four-letter word.” But the love that Jesus calls us to is not merely romantic, emotional, or mere sentimentality. There is nothing wrong with feelings of infatuation because in experiencing falling in love, we are drawn out from ourselves to another. This experience of love has no depth though and when it is channeled and disciplined, it can mature to the wonderful gift of friendship.
The bond of friendship and family goes beyond mere attraction and is built through shared interests and experiences. Through sharing our lives with others, working through conflicts, trust is built, and relationships will hopefully grow and deepen. Jesus, though, is calling us to mature in our growth of loving even beyond friendship or familial ties. If we love those who willingly love us in return, greet only our brothers and sisters, only those in our clique, group, tribe, or political party, what is the recompense or satisfaction in that? Agape, in Greek, loving without conditions, with little or no chance of mutual exchange, is what Jesus is calling us to strive for.
How can Jesus ask us to love an enemy or pray for someone who persecutes us? St. Thomas Aquinas can be of help. He defines the love that Jesus describes as willing the good of the other as other. We make an act of the will, a free choice to accept the person as they are, to see them, not from our limited, finite perspective but as God sees them, as a person with dignity. Jesus does not teach that we condone violence or abuse or dehumanization. We just don’t act in kind and meet hate with hate. Jesus is calling us higher so we can help to end cycles of violence and not continue to fuel the fire of hatred and division with retaliation.
On our own, we may not even conceive of the possibility, but we can be assured that if Jesus has asked us to strive for this height and depth of love, he will provide the means and support. We love others unconditionally by allowing Jesus to love others through us. We love one person at a time and strive to reach the summit of loving our enemy. Even when we fall short, how much better would our country and the world be if we sought this as our goal? To counter divisiveness, fear, and hatred, we need to choose to engage in an act of the will to love one another as Jesus loves us.
As St. Polycarp, Bishop of Smyrna in the second century who was martyred at 86 years old, was a disciple of John the Apostle who was a disciple of Jesus, taught, “True love desires not only one’s own salvation, but the salvation of all our brothers.” He put his words into practice. As Roman soldiers came to arrest him, he welcomed them and offered them food and drink before they led him to his death.
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Photo: Rosary walk and praying with Jesus, Mary, John, and Polycarp. St. Vincent de Paul Regional Seminary, Boynton Beach, FL.
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