And when he had taken leave of them, he went off to the mountain to pray (Mk 6:46). We often read in the Gospels that Jesus went off by himself to pray. I am sure this was not a practice that he just began during his public ministry, but one that he learned and developed from Mary and Joseph. The Apostles themselves witnessed Jesus praying, and how God was primary in his life.
Pope Leo during a Sunday homily on July 20, 2025 shared, “Our relationship with God comes first… we should set aside moments of silence, moments of prayer, times in which, quieting noise and distractions, we recollect ourselves before God in simplicity of heart. This is a dimension of the Christian life that we particularly need to recover today, both as a value for individuals and communities, and as a prophetic sign for our times. We must make room for silence, for listening to the Father who speaks and ‘sees in secret’” (Mt 6:6).
Jesus prayed, he taught his Apostles to pray, and we are at our best when we are people of prayer. We become people who pray when we are willing to make friends with silence. When we show up intentionally to spend time with God, our lives begin to change. That we even desire to pray, that we even want to be closer to God, is already a prayer because we are experiencing an invitation from God to draw close to him, to develop a relationship with him, to come to know the one who knows us better than we know our self.
Fr. William Barry in his book, God and You, describes how prayer is becoming consciously aware of our relationship with God. “God is in relationship with each and every created thing in the universe and in relationship to the whole of it… whether that being is aware of the relationship or not.” The amazing thing about God is that “he will not force himself on us. He continually tries to arouse our awareness and interest in him” (Barry 1987, 12-13).
God reaches out to us in so many ways such as a majestic sunrise or sunset, the ebb and flow of the waves on a beach, and the brilliant radiance of a starlit sky. He also does so through our trials of sickness, pain, others who are being hurt, or encountering injustice. He is also present through our every day relationships and experiences. The key is to be aware of what is being stirred up within us when we experience something and allow ourselves to “wonder about the experience and its meaning” (Barry, 13).
What is most important regarding becoming people of prayer is our awareness, our becoming conscious that we have a relationship with God who is not an idea but a person. “This relationship is based on God’s actions to establish it and his desire that we become conscious of who he is and wants to be for us. Our consciousness depends on our willingness to pay attention to God’s actions, or at least to experiences that might be actions of God, and to let our desires for God be aroused” (Barry, 14).
Another question that Fr. Barry answers regarding prayer is that if God knows everything about us, why bother to pray at all? God is not just wanting information. Again, he is inviting us to enter into a relationship. He wants to know whether we believe he cares how we feel and whether we are willing to let him in, to let him know what we feel and desire. It is important to be honest in our dialogue and be willing to reveal ourselves to God, while at the same time, be open and willing to allow him to reveal himself to us. This is how we build authentic relationships with God and each other (cf. Barry, 15).
Jesus, thank you for inviting us in so many small ways each day to spend time with you. Though we can allow our harried pace, distractions, diversions, temptations, and/or pain to lead us away from the gift of your presence, please help us to slow down, to breathe, rest, and abide in the wonder of how our God and Father is present, and how the love of the Holy Spirit is working in our lives daily. Help us to realize that we don’t need to be perfect to come to you, to say the right words to be heard by you, nor that we have to say any word at all, and help us to be free to show up, rest in your loving gaze, and be with you and go from there.
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Photo: Moments when we are touched by beauty and stop, are accepted invitations to pray.
Barry, William A. S.J. God and You: Prayer as a Personal Relationship by William Barry SJ. New York: Paulist Press, 1987.
Spiritual Stepping Stones 
Thank you for this beautiful reflection on prayer and silence. Reading it made me wonder: why do you think the Church so often speaks about prayer, but many of us were never really taught how to pray in a personal, relational way? Are there specific classes, workshops that focus on prayer in a relationship manner with God. Just as the book titled “Remain in Me, and I in You” by Father Wayne Sattler emphasizing the idea of relating to God as a person and not an idea.
Thank you Father.
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You are welcome, Ellen.
That is a good, searching question. Throughout the history of the church especially during times of renewal, different forms of the prayer through many, such as the saints, shared and offered teaching on prayer. We have an incredibly rich tradition of prayer in our church from Luke 11.1 when the apostles asked Jesus to teach them to pray up to and including each age to the present with a book such as Fr. Sattler’s which you referenced.
Why many haven’t heard about it, is because of lack of exposure in parishes. If there are no priests or religious making a priority to share, then less is known. When the emphasis is offered then people have access and come to know.
Yes, there are workshops, classes, and programs, books and resources accessible to learn. You are beginning with a very good one!
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