How many times have we looked to others instead of staying focused on what we need to do or be doing? How many times do we compare ourselves, assessing what we or others have or don’t have, how others are more or less confident, more or less better looking, more or less intelligent, how others lives are altogether or a catastrophe, and even, how our faith life is worse or better?
We get a taste of these questions and what our response ought to be from Jesus in today’s Gospel. The background of today’s reading is a continuation from yesterday’s, in which the author described how Jesus forgave Peter for denying him by asking him not only if Peter loved him, but how he was to put that love into action by feeding his lambs, taking care of and feeding his sheep. Jesus also had just let Peter know that Peter was going to die in his service to him.
Today, we read that upon hearing the news of his eventual death, that Peter shifts the direction away from himself. When Peter saw him, he said to Jesus, “Lord, what about him?” Jesus said to him, “What if I want him to remain until I come? What concern is it of yours? You follow me” (Jn 21:21-22). Jesus does not definitively say what is or is not going to happen to the beloved disciple. Jesus is clear with Peter that his focus is not to be on what is going to happen to the beloved or any other disciple, but to direct his attention to following him and his will.
Our orientation as disciples of Jesus is to follow Jesus, to focus on his will for our lives and to expend our energy in such a way that promotes his will. We are to slowly transform each thought, word, and action such that each is to be aligned with God’s will. A good way to start that change is to spend less time comparing ourselves to others. The temptation to compare is a slippery slope that can lead us to the devastating sins of gossip, pride, and envy. If we are to compare ourselves to anyone, let it be to Jesus.
Jesus calls us to be perfect as his heavenly Father is perfect, which is an impossible task if we seek to go it alone. Yet, we can become perfected through our participation in the life of Jesus the Christ. We begin when we ask for Jesus to help us make a commitment to resist the temptation to compare ourselves to others. Then when the first instant of a comparative thought arises, we can replace it with a prayer of blessing directed toward another and follow up with some pondering about what we are grateful for.
Moment by moment, we just need to remember that we are not alone, that we walk with Jesus. One thought, one action, one interaction at a time, we are called to surrender our will to the love of God. By taking these steps to counter the influences of a focus on self first as well as resist the comparative and/or seeking to follow a cult of personality, we can begin to shift the momentum away from increasing divisiveness, defensiveness, and mistrust, and instead strive toward supporting, encouraging, and uplifting one another.
As we allow Jesus to love us in places we feel unlovable, our thoughts, prayers, and actions will change. We will become more understanding, patient, willing to engage in conflict resolution, and dialogue. To allow Jesus to love and forgive us, and take the time to savor and experience both, helps us to begin to lessen the intensity of fear, prejudice, biases, and chronic stress. As we are able to then experience his peace, let our shoulders come out of our ears, we become less defensive and willing to see each other through God’s eyes, as beloved daughters and sons with whom he is well pleased.
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Photo: When we follow Jesus where he leads, we will be able to rise above our sins, wounds, and resistance because when we trust in Jesus forgiveness, healing, and reconciliation is possible.
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