When Jesus said to his disciples: “If the world hates you, realize that it hated me first”, Jesus was not proposing an-us-verses them mentality, for he had just spoken to them about loving others as he loves them. Falling into an-us-verses mentality for those suffering from persecution is an understandable posture. It is just not the stance that Jesus proposes for us to take. We are to love our enemies, we are to love those who hate us and persecute us. Impossible? On our own will power alone, yes, for apart from Jesus we can do nothing, but with him all things are possible, even loving our enemies, haters, and persecutors.
Jesus is making it plain to his disciples that they need to be prepared, that they will face the same that he did. They will be persecuted, mocked, imprisoned, and many will give their lives just as Jesus did. The gospel message is a challenge. We are challenged to have a change of mind and heart and not to think in the ways of the fallen world. Our minds are instead to be transformed by and conformed to the love of Jesus the Christ. This means that our focus must shift away from being self first and foremost to putting God first. God is to have the primary place in our lives.
We know we are putting God first instead of our fallen nature when we react less and love more. Reactions are based in fear, defensive, and slipping into an-us-verses them mentality. “They”: are responsible for the state I am in, are taking my jobs, are not allowing me to worship or speak in the way I want to, it is all their fault, they made me do it. These are all reactive thoughts that lead to uglier statements and actions. Jesus invites us to assume the disposition resisting the temptation of reaction and instead choosing intentional action grounded in God’s love for us and making our decisions from God’s guidance and not our reactions.
The way we can be more intentional and less reactive is to spend more time making friends with silence, being more still to pray and meditate with God’s word in the Bible and also in his word of creation. Much of our reaction comes from our harried pace, keeping us from being in touch with our deep-seated wounds, fears, and prejudices. We run from the mirror Jesus holds up to us. It is important to stop and pray regularly. When we do and we are willing to face the sin in our hearts, we can identify them and let them go. We can bring our struggles, pain, and areas in need of healing to Jesus for healing. A way to begin to turn away is by taking some deep breaths and ask Jesus to shine the light of his love in our hearts so that we can see what lies hidden in those dark corners. Then we can identify those sins, renounce, let it go, be forgiven of them, and set free.
Embracing the humility to confess our sins and to die to our sinful ways helps in our healing. We are not only forgiven, Jesus gives us the grace to grow in our relationship with him and each other and we are strengthened to resist temptations. We become more patient, understanding, and truer to who Jesus calls us to be, which is people who love. We will each other’s good by treating each other as brothers and sisters. We are better able to accept that we are all imperfect, make mistakes, experience loneliness, and just want to belong, and be loved.
Pope Leo encouraged us in his Regina Caeli address on May 11 to, “ask our Heavenly Father to assist us in living in service to one another, each according to his or her state of life, shepherds after his own heart, (cf. Jer 3:15) capable of helping one another to walk in love and truth.”
Jesus and Pope Leo show us the way to the Father is to ask him for help. Let us ask God, our Heavenly Father to help us to live more consciously and pray to renew and conform our lives to the Jesus who gave his life that we might be free from the grip of our own sins, prejudices, and darkness. May we allow the love of the Holy Spirit to guide and flow through us, so as to dissolve attitudes of hate and division, and instead soften our hearts that they would be more open to dialogue and healing.
May we no longer turn away from the temptation of revenge and fueling contempt, hate, and dehumanization, and instead choose to pause, breathe, receive, rest, and abide often in Jesus’ love for us. Empowered and embodied by his love, obeying God’s will and his commandments, we will be empowered to resist the easy and impulsive reaction so as to not retaliate in kind, but instead choose to intentionally respond in ways that are understanding, compassionate, and loving. In this way, we can heal and help others to heal and to “walk in truth and love.”
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Photo: Pope Leo offering his first Regina Caeli address on May 11, 2025. Vatican News photo credit.
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