Prayer is God’s initiative. God initiates prayer because he wants to be in relationship with us. When we feel the desire to pray, prayer has begun because this is our first awareness of God’s invitation to relationship. By our very nature, we are prayerful beings, we want to belong, to be a part of, and to be in communion. We seek to receive love and love in return. The challenge is that we can be led astray and seek disordered affections and substitutes for that which and who will fulfill our greatest desire for communion and love which is answering our deepest yearning as a living, craving, hunger and desire to be one with God and each another.
Yet, as Jesus’ Parable of the Sower shows, the desire to pray is not enough. The enemy can easily divert, distract, and steal our desire. We may not know how to pray or how to really pray. This was true for the disciples as well. Even though they prayed, most likely by reciting the Shema (Deuteronomy 6:4-9) each morning and evening as well as the Psalms, they saw something different about Jesus in his prayer. So we hear in the Gospel today from Luke: “Lord, teach us to pray” (Luke 11:1). Jesus then shared with his disciples the model and form of prayer which can help us today as well.
The first movement in our prayer is to acknowledge God’s invitation for dialogue, for relationship, and truth. Jesus teaches, “Father, hallowed be your name” (Luke 11:2). The very first instinct is to acknowledge that God, as Jesus teaches, is our Father. In our prayer with Jesus we acknowledge and so recognize that we are children of God. God is God and we are not. God is infinite and we are finite, created beings. May sound obvious but if we don’t get this starting point correct, we will be frustrated with prayer.
We can be frustrated if we approach God like a gum ball machine, seeking to get what we want, when we want, and how we want. We will be frustrated by seeking to bend God’s will to our own. God does not operate that way. God knows what we seek, need, and what will be best for us, better than we do. Our Father will give us that which we need and will fulfill us, especially the best gift of all which Jesus shares at the end of today’s reading: “If you then, who are wicked, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will the Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him” (Luke 11:13)?
The Holy Spirit, is the greatest gift we can receive. The Holy Spirit, the love shared between the Father and the Son, is who we seek in the depth of our souls. It is in following the promptings of the Holy Spirit that we not only come to know God, we come to know ourselves. The Holy Spirit gently leads us and each time we follow, we begin to recognize his voice and distinguish it from the father of lies. “Each act of fidelity to an inspiration is rewarded by abundant graces, especially by more frequent and stronger inspirations” (Philippe, 22).
As we follow the lead of the Holy Spirit in our prayer, come to breathe, receive, rest, and abide in God’s love, we will also be better able to do so in our daily lives and interactions with one another. We will better identify the lies, apparent goods, and even competition of actual goods so that we can clearly follow with each thought, word, and action the guidance of the Holy Spirit.
To get to this point of closer intimacy with God takes intention, daily time committed to meditating, praying, and contemplating his word. Also, when he leads to just be silent, for as St. Mother Teresa taught, “God speaks in the silence of our heart.” Oral prayer is the easiest way to begin. It is the first way to accept God’s invitation to pray. We can pray the Our Father, the Rosary, read Scripture, speak to him directly, and then from our time of vocal prayer, we can meditate and ponder what the Lord has given us to reflect upon. When the Holy Spirit inspires us to then be still and listen, let us do so. Our Father will speak to us in his word, in his silence, and/or sometimes with consolations.
Prayer is not so much about what we do. Prayer is more about lifting our hearts and minds to God and allowing ourselves to slow down enough to be aware of what God wants to do in us. Our Father seeks to helps us to identify our sins so that we can be free and confess them, he leads us to heal those places where we have preferred to keep locked up, and he wants to shine the light on how we are to serve him so that his kingdom will come and and his will, will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
To enter deeper into a life of prayer we need to trust Jesus. That is what made a big difference in the first days of my 30 day silent retreat in July of 2023. I followed the lead of my spiritual director and started to imagine myself sitting with Jesus as I read and meditated upon these words a few times, “to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, so that you may be full of the fullness of God” (Ephesians 3:19), I leaned over and asked Jesus, “How can I know your love?”
He said, “Trust me.”
I did and that made all the difference in the following holy hours and successive days of the retreat, as well as the last two years.
We have been created to live a life of prayer. Jesus will teach us to pray, just as he taught his disciples. As we trust him and ask for the guidance of the Holy Spirit, God our Father will grant our request. My invitation to you who have read this far, is to set aside some time today, sit in a comfortable quiet place, take a few deep breaths, read through today’s Gospel account Luke 11:1-13 a few times, trust in Jesus, ask for the Holy Spirit, follow their lead, and let God happen!
Photo: Bench view from where I sat with my first encounter with Jesus as related above and during many more of my holy hours back in July of 2023.
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