In today’s Gospel from Matthew, Jesus realized that: “The Pharisees went out and took counsel against Jesus to put him to death” (Mt 12:14). Jesus did not then start to plan how he would defend himself against their plot, he did not arm his supporters, nor is there any indication that Jesus let the fact that he was a marked man bother him. What did Jesus do with this bit of news?
“He withdrew from that place” (Mt. 12:15) and cured those who followed him. Was Jesus being a coward by withdrawing? No. Jesus refused to engage or give any of his time or energy to their negativity or threat. He focused on who he is and what he was about: continuing the mission that his Father had sent him to accomplish. Jesus as Son of God became human to help bring about the salvation of humanity and the world and to call those who would work with him to participate in his mission.
Many of us will hopefully not receive death threats, but many of us may witness and/or receive critical, negative, belittling, demeaning, or dehumanizing looks, words, and outright actions that cause physical, mental, emotional or spiritual harm. For those of us who choose to practice the teachings of Jesus, we may receive even more, even from those in our own families!
Our common response to the many forms of perceived or actual animosity directed toward us is to react. Our reactions generally are based on learned defense or coping mechanisms that we have adopted to survive. When we react, we have slipped into survival mode, experience increased anxiety, defensiveness, anger as well as a myriad of other emotions. Reactions will continue until we learn to feel safe. Intentional breathing, slow and deep, is a good first redirection. Then we are more open to call upon God’s guidance and hear his direction.
Breathing and praying daily when we are not overtly feeling stressed is a good practice to build up our reservoir, so when we are triggered, we have some muscle memory already wired to breathe and pray. Life is short, let us not take a day or moment for granted, nor give away our precious time by engaging in unneeded drama or negativity. There are times that we do need to stand and speak up. Other times, as Jesus did today, we need to walk away and focus on what Jesus has before us. With each challenge or conflict, may we call on Jesus for his discernment on how best to act in each situation.
The words of Teresa of Avila, Spanish saint and doctor of the Church (1514-1582), are good ones to repeat and meditate upon often: “Let nothing disturb you, Let nothing frighten you, All things are passing away: God never changes. Patience obtains all things. Whoever has God lacks nothing; God alone suffices.”
Photo: Making time to withdraw from the world each day, to breathe, be still, receive, rest, and abide in God’s love, helps us to feel safe, renew, and be clearer about God’s guidance. We can proceed from there.
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