commandments

“Brothers and sisters, this is the hour to love!”

“Whoever has my commandments and observes them is the one who loves me” (John 14:21).

Especially in our modern western mind set, the idea of commandments and love are bristled at. Mostly this is because of abuse of power, abuse in relationships, and a weakening of trust in secular and religious institutions is still present for many.

Jesus though is clearly bringing commandments and love together, as he is sharing with his apostles in these beginning stages of his farewell discourse before his crucifixion, what he feels is most important to leave. His testament that he not only wants to share, but these final words he wants to impart upon them in such a way that they continue to learn and receive his teachings, put them into practice, and perpetuate them.

As commandment can lead one to bristle, love has many more superficial meanings than what Jesus means. One reason is that, even though the English language has a plethora of words to utilize and choose from, there is only one word for love and it is interpreted in many ways. In Ancient Greek, there are four words that are used to connote love. There is eros, which has to do with attraction. It is the beginning stage of love because we are drawn out of ourselves as we are attracted to another. The next word for love is philia, which aligns with friendship, a wanting to be together, to share between friends. If our love matures it moves from attraction or infatuation to friendship. The third word, storge, is the deeper love shared with family members which can be through blood or a deepening of friendship. The fourth word is agape, which is unconditional love, a sacrificial love.

When Jesus shares that we are to follow the commandments, he is not demanding that we do so as a tyrant would. He is providing the boundaries and parameters for us to grow and mature as people who love, who, in the words of St Thomas Aquinas, will the good of the other as other. As humans, we are social beings. We want to belong, to be accepted, and to be a part of. We seek meaning, purpose, and fulfillment in our lives. This is best done through cooperation and collaboration with God and with one another, striving to love unconditionally, agape.

As a good son of St. Augustine, Pope Leo XIV quoted Augustine in his inaugural Mass as Pope Sunday: “Lord, you have made us for yourself, and our heart is restless until it rests in you (Confessions, I: 1,1).” We are made by God to be loved and to love in return. Nothing we seek of this world will satisfy this deepest hunger that we all have in our soul besides the love God has for us. Unfortunately, we succumb to many disordered affections in pursuit of the love we seek. We are led astray by apparent goods that leave us hungry, thirsty, and wanting for more.

If we operate from a self-centered posture in which we are only turned in upon our self, and we only seek to manipulate and get from others, instead of working for consensus and sharing a common vision with others, we will ultimately be empty with the exchange on any level, because even in our relationships as with material things, we will be left wanting more. This is true because once the immediacy of the stimulation, whether material, personal, or sensual, ends, so does the experience of the feeling. Some happiness may linger from the effect, but we will never be filled or satisfied with that which is finite. We will continue to seek more and more until the pursuit of instant and constant gratification ensnares us and we are entangled in a web of addiction.

God’s commandments, grounded in love, are meant to provide boundaries for us, training wheels, and to keep us free from enslavement to sin, while at the same time help us to mature as persons moving away from being self-centered to becoming other-centered. Discipline in this way is meant to be a means of freedom for excellence such that we can become who God calls us to be and who we truly desire to be. God is not in competition with us. He is our biggest fan. As St Irenaeus wrote, the glory of God is the human being fully alive!

Commandments and morality imposed indiscriminately, without reason or an end goal is a bludgeon. Love and mercy without accountability and justice can be enabling. Jesus’ invites us to receive and observe his commandments so that we may be freed from disordered affections and so properly order and discipline our affections and passions to be free to love. Jesus knows what will truly fulfill and give us deeper meaning. May we trust in and learn from the deposit of faith passed on from Jesus to the Apostles, to each successive generation, as well as the ongoing guidance of the Holy Spirit who the Father sent in his name (John 14:26).

Pope Leo XIV continued to carry on Jesus’ teachings yesterday: “Brothers and sisters, this is the hour for love! The heart of the gospel is the love of God that makes us brothers and sisters.” We are brothers and sisters, disciples of Jesus, when we receive, rest, and abide in the love that Jesus offers us and come to realize that we do not do walk alone. As we receive and put into practice Jesus’s commandments, we love him and his Father, are given the discernment to reveal the lies of the enemy, we grow, and mature in our spiritual lives.

Let us allow the tender chords of the Holy Spirit’s love to draw us deeper into intimacy with him so that we can be transformed by his love, healed by his love, and freed from the false lures and promises that seek to divert us from being the beloved daughters and sons of God our Father that we have been created to be. As we allow ourselves to be loved, we, are “called to offer God’s love to everyone, in order to achieve that unity which does not cancel out differences but values the personal history of each person and the social and religious cultures of every people” (Pope Leo XIV).

Photo by Alberto PIZZOLI / AFP accessed from Catholic Herald

Quotes above from Pope Leo XIV from: Transcript of Pope Leo XIV’s Inauguration Mass

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“You are lacking one thing…”

A man approached Jesus seeking to know what he must, “do to inherit eternal life” (Mk 10:17). Jesus interestingly shared the commandments of Moses’ second tablet, those of loving neighbor such as: do not kill, commit adultery, steal or bear false witness; do not defraud, but do honor his father and mother (cf. Mk 10:19), not any from the first tablet regarding how to relate to God. The man affirmed that he had followed them all. Jesus did not challenge the man’s response. The disciples, I bet, though perked up and prepared to watch Jesus lead this man deeper.

Jesus, looking at him, loved him and said, “You are lacking one thing. Go, sell what you have, and give to [the] poor and you will have treasure in heaven; then come and follow me” (Mk 10:21).

Jesus did not admonish or condemn the man. Mark, who most likely got this eyewitness detail from Peter, wrote, “Jesus looking at him, loved him”. Jesus loved him and hoped to help him to see that there was something still lacking in him, still holding him bound. So he lovingly invited him to take the next step to fulfill the deepest desire we all have, which is to be one with God and one another.

Instead of embracing the invitation, the man was crestfallen. That he followed the prescriptions of Torah all his life, and most likely sincerely felt he was blessed by God with the gift of having many material goods, in the end, did he really know God any better by following the precepts of the law alone? In the end, did he worship God or his possessions which still enslaved him.

He may genuinely have come to seek eternal life, but as many misunderstood the kind of  messiah Jesus would be, he did not grasp the reality of relationship that God invites us to experience. This man was likely serious, disciplined, well mannered, and virtuous but made the mistake in thinking this all came about by his own doing. He thought the things he received from God was his blessing, not realizing that God wanted to give this man the greatest gift of all, himself.

Jesus invited the man to follow him, and in so doing he was now bringing in the first of Moses’ tablets, the first three of the Ten Commandments, which have to do with our relationship with God. Jesus answered this man’s question, “What must I do to inherit eternal life?” by saying, “You are lacking one thing. Go, sell what you have, and give to [the] poor and you will have treasure in heaven; then come and follow me” (Mk 10:21). Interestingly, Jesus did not say, follow God, he said follow me! Jesus is the Son of God, he is God incarnate.

The heart of the commandments invite us to be free from that which enslave us, so that we can put God first and foremost in our lives, so we can experience and receive his love, so we can grow in our relationship with him and one another free of unhealthy attachments. This is what we all have been created for, as St. Augustine himself realized when he wrote, “You have made us for yourself, O Lord, and our hearts are restless until they rest in you” (St Augustine, Confessions).

I invite you to return to this scene from Mark 10:17-31. Recall the image of the disciples and Jesus watching the rich man walk away sad. Become aware of the eyes of Jesus, his gaze now on you. What stirs within you as you receive his gaze and his love?

Allow yourself to take a breath and ask, “What must I do to inherit eternal life?” Continue to look deeply into Jesus’ eyes as he says, “You are lacking one thing…” How does he fill in the blank for you?

What is your response?
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Painting image based on the Shroud of Turin.

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God’s commandments are invitations to grow in love.

Two points jump out of the Gospel of John today: commandments and love. How is each one of these related to living life as a disciple of Jesus? Often, many who hear the word commandments, often react, and are immediately put off. “There goes the Church again telling me what I can and cannot do.” Yet what Jesus is doing showing how the following of his commandments is a true expression of loving him.

Love is another word that evokes reactions. One reason is that, even though the English language has a plethora of words to utilize and choose from, there is only one word for love, and it is interpreted in many ways. In Ancient Greek, there are four words that are used to connote love. There is eros, which has to do with attraction. It is the beginning stage of love because we are drawn out of ourselves as we are attracted to another. The next word for love is philios, which has to do with friendship. This is the love between friends. If our love matures it moves from attraction or infatuation to friendship. The third word is storge or the deeper love shared with family members. The fourth word is agape, which is unconditional love.

When Jesus shares that we are to follow the commandments, he is not demanding that we do so as a tyrant. He is providing the boundaries and parameters for us to grow and mature as people who love, who, in the words of St Thomas Aquinas, will the good of the other as other. As humans, we are social beings. We want to belong, to be accepted, and to be a part of. We seek meaning, purpose, and fulfillment. This is best done through cooperation and collaboration with God and one another, striving for agape, to love unconditionally.

If we operate from a self-centered posture in which we are only turned in upon ourselves, and we only seek to manipulate and get from others, instead of working together and sharing a common vision with others, we will ultimately be empty with the exchange on any level, because we will be left wanting more. This is true because once the immediacy of the stimulation, whether material or sensual, ends, so does the experience of the feeling. Some happiness may linger from the effect, but we will never be filled or satisfied with anything finite. We will continue to seek more and more until the pursuit of instant and constant gratification ensnares us and we are entangled in a web of addiction.

The commandments, grounded in love, are meant to provide boundaries for us, training wheels, and to keep us free from enslavement to sin, while at the same time help us to be persons who move away from being self-centered to maturing as other-centered instead. Discipline in this way is meant to be a means of freedom for excellence such that we can become who God calls us to be and who we truly desire to be. Ultimately, we are to love God as he loves us and love our neighbor as ourselves in our own unique way. God is not in competition with us. He is our biggest fan. As St Irenaeus wrote, the glory of God is the human being fully alive!

Commandments and morality imposed, is a bludgeon. Love and mercy without accountability and justice can be enabling. Jesus provides the blueprint for a balanced both/and approach of invitation and shepherding. May we surrender to his loving guidance and correction, align ourselves with the Holy Spirit, who is the Love expressed and shared between the Father and the Son. May we seek ways to improve our lives, to be more honest with our weaknesses, so Jesus can be our strength, and to seek God when we are tempted to choose him so he can lead us away from the enticement to sin, and seek his forgiveness when we have fallen.

As we journey in this life, we do not do so alone. As we seek to follow Jesus’ lead, as we grow and mature, we do so while in the midst of encountering and forming relationships with others. Conformed by following the commandments, we are to reach out in love to each other as Jesus has done with us. As we form and deepen our relationships, new and old, may we encourage, support, and love one another while at the same time, challenge and hold each other accountable as we strive to be who Jesus invites us to be.
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Photo: The discipline of nightly Rosary walks over these past two years has been a blessing! St. Vincent de Paul Regional Seminary, Boynton Beach, FL.

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