Jesus begins his teaching on prayer by stating that prayer is not babbling. We are to resist just saying empty words that have no meaning or worse just praying in words that we think God wants us to hear. Prayer is to come from our hearts. We are to share honestly what we truly think and feel in the moment that we turn our hearts and minds up to God.
Prayer, first and foremost, is a response to the Holy Spirit moving within us, urging us to pray, “for we do not know how to pray as we ought” (cf. Romans 8:26). It is helpful to trust that invitation and allow ourselves to be in his presence in the chaos as well as in the joys in our lives. If we are upset with God, it is important to get in touch with that feeling and share that emotion with him. As we do so and get it out, it is just as important to be still and remain for a time, and listen for God’s response. To vent and walk away or tune God out is not helpful or giving him the opportunity to provide healing.
Even if we do walk away from him, our Father will not walk away from us. He will be there ready and willing to accompany us when we are ready to return, share again, and are willing to be still and listen. A good example of this type of open and honest prayer from the heart will be found in reading the psalms. They cover the full range of our human emotions as well as expressions of prayers of blessing, petition, intercession, thanksgiving, and praise. We will even come across one like Psalm 88, which may not appeal to us at the moment, as it is such a psalm of despair, yet someone, somewhere, might be feeling that prayer. If we read it and find as we do so that we don’t relate to it, we can pray it for others who may be experiencing those emotions.
In our Gospel today, we read Matthew’s familiar version of the Lord’s Prayer or the Our Father. It presents two ways to pray. First, it is a rote prayer that we memorize word for word. The blessing of a rote prayer is that we can pray it in communion with others, as we all know the same words. Another important gift of rote prayers is that we can pray them when we are physically in pain or emotionally distraught when we feel we can’t pray.
Jesus taught his disciples this prayer and it has been prayed daily since then up to and including this moment. That is an amazing reality, that we can pray today the same prayer that Jesus taught his disciples (Different language, yes, but the same prayer.). It is a prayer we can lean on to give us strength through the storms of our lives. Praying the Our Father gives us the words to speak when we have none to begin with, and by loosening our tongues, we can come to a place where we can speak more freely with God, who as Jesus shares is our Father, and experience the peace of his presence.
The Lord’s Prayer is also a model of prayer such that each word or phrase can be a starting point to enter into a deeper and loving dialogue. There are seven petitions throughout and as with the ten commandments have a similar pattern in that the first three petitions are directed toward our relationship with God. The next four have to do with our relationship with others. As an example, we begin with the words, “Our Father.” This is a reminder that God is the Father of us all and the beginning of all prayer. His sun shines on the good and the bad alike. Our prayer begins by putting our self in his presence and recognizing that we are all interconnected.
God, our Father, is with us even when we experience fear, sorrow, feel forgotten, misunderstood, or alone. We just need to remember to turn to him. Our every desire to pray is already a prayer because we are responding to his invitation to spend time exclusively with him. In turning to him, we experience that he is always present and he hasn’t forsaken us. He provides our daily bread and forgives us as we forgive others. God also rejoices with us, for the joy of God is the human being fully alive!
Carve out some time today to pray the Our Father s-l-o-w-l-y. Take some slow and deliberate breaths, five seconds in and five out. Allow whatever is going on in your life to enter into the recitation and remember that the best dialogue allows each party involved to spend some time listening to the other. As St Mother Teresa taught, “God speaks in the silence of our hearts.”
By pausing, being still, and not rushing these words, and then listening silently at the end of the verbal prayer, we can enter into that time of quiet to be still and listen. Doing so we will experience his love for us, better know our Father, his will, and begin to experience his peace and rest. Learning to listen to God who we can’t see might also help us to listen to each other who we can see.
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Photo: Jesus taught John the apostle the Our Father. It worked out pretty well for him, may we follow his lead!
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