In today’s Gospel from Matthew, Jesus draws a direct correlation between our level of worry and our faith. Having faith is a common theme throughout Jesus’ teaching. How many times have we read or heard, “O you of little faith” (Mt 6:30). Faith is defined in the Catechism of the Catholic Church as, “man’s response to God, who reveals himself and gives himself to man, at the same time bringing man a superabundant light as he searches for the ultimate meaning of his life” (CCC, 26.) Jesus came to reveal his Father to us, to show us that he cares for, loves, and wants to provide for us.
When we are feeling anxious or worried, we are most likely not placing our trust or putting God first in our lives. We may be dwelling on the past, rehashing something we did or did not do, what someone did or did not do, fixating on whether or not we made the right decision. We could also be anxious about the future. Our minds plague us often with the worst-case scenarios of what might be or what could happen. We also may react to another’s actions or words, not fully understanding the context or source of the hurt or struggle they may be going through that caused those words or actions. We react and then the worry wheel begins to roll again. When we seek security first in anything other than God, remain hyper-focused and absorbed in ourselves, we will stay stuck in our emotions and reactions and then we continue to remain stuck in the vicious cycle. We become tossed about like a tumble weed and our insides often experience a perpetual churning.
When we focus on what we do not have instead of being grateful for what we do, we will also experience unrest. We exercise little faith or trust in God when we allow ourselves to be hyper preoccupied with anyone or anything apart from and other than God. Jesus is helping us to see that, “No one can serve two masters” (Mt 6:24). Either we place ourselves, someone, or something first, or we place God first. There really is no middle ground. Jesus’ command to put God first in our lives and to trust in him above all and everyone else: “If any one comes to me without hating his father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple” (Luke 14:26), embodies the reality of his radical pronouncement. We cannot be his disciple if we are not willing to put God first, because to be a disciple of Jesus is to be willing to do whatever he tells us.
When we come to experience the love of God, we can then trust him and let go of the false promises, the apparent and disordered goods that we have sought in place of God. Our life apart from God first is met with the feeling of that separation. Anxiety, worry, and fear then has a place to roam because we are unmoored from his love. These emotions can then become debilitating and paralyzing and can lead toward a downward spiral, a curving in upon ourselves, that leads to an unsettled mental state. From this posture we can become impatient, reactive, and more fearful.
Too many of us buy into the enemy’s lies that lead to isolating ourselves, keeping ourselves busy, distracted, and perpetually tired. Even when we seek to find some rest and to wind-down and renew, we reach for activities that do not bring us the rest we seek but instead continue to keep us in a perpetual state of unrest. Mindless channel surfing, lost hours on social media, or binging on YouTube clips, will not bring rest to our souls. These practices do the opposite; they keep us in a constant state of busy and overstimulation fueled by dopamine hits that contribute to a growing cycle of chronic stress.
One of the reasons we may be drawn to these technological avenues is to escape the anxieties and stresses we experience. They distract and divert us for the moment, we can enjoy instant gratification, and we may feel satisfied – for the moment. It comes at the cost though of further separating us from God and each other. Until we face our restlessness with the one who can forgive and heal us, we will continue to be unhinged, unanchored, and floating from this to that distraction. At our core, we are deeply hungering to be loved and to love. “The desire for God is written in the human heart, because man is created by God and for God; God never ceases to draw man to himself. Only in God will he find the truth and happiness he never stops searching for” (CCC, 27).
Jesus’ life, words, and actions provide a clearer way, a path that will lead us from the mist of diversion that continues to draw us deeper into the brambles of unbridled anxieties, attachments, and temptations. The way out of this inner downward spiral is to, “seek first the Kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be given you besides” (Mt 6:33). God truly knows what we seek and need in the depths of our souls. At the foundation, is deepening our relationship with him. When we spend time consistently reading, praying and meditating with the Bible, walking in creation, seeking the things of heaven instead of this world and feeling, experiencing, and bringing our anxieties, fears, and sources of stress to God, we will feel safe and experience moments of peace and renewal. We can come to a place of rest where we can breathe again, be loved as we are, and begin to heal.
Intentionally setting aside key anchor times to be with God each day is one way to put God first in our lives. As we offer vocal prayers to our loving God and Father, share with him our needs and thanksgiving, our anxieties and hopes, we will find rest in knowing that God hears our prayers and will guide us. As we spend time reading, meditating and praying with God’s word, we are nourished, transformed, and recognize we are not alone in our struggles as we thought we were. And as we become more consistent with vocal and meditative ways of praying, we can then engage in the deeper gift of contemplative prayer in which we can just be silent with God and rest in his presence. We can be like the beloved apostle, who rested his head on the chest of Jesus and listened to the beating of his Sacred Heart.
We cannot serve two masters. When we put God first in this moment and with each breathe, thought, word, and action throughout this day, our hearts will be less troubled, we will be less afraid, and we will trust in Jesus, know better his Father, and experience more often the love of the Holy Spirit.
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Photo: “For it is not my desire to act towards you as a man-pleaser, but as pleasing God, even as also you please Him.” – St. Ignatius of Antioch at the beginning of the second chapter of his Letter to the Romans.
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