trust

Do we seek a sign or believe and trust in Jesus?

“Give me a sign!”

Often, when we ask for a sign, we have a preconceived notion of what we are seeking and we want God’s stamp of approval on it. The impetus is coming from us, seeking to bend the will of God to our will. More often times than not this approach will end in frustration. The Pharisees in today’s account are asking for a sign. Jesus has already been preaching with authority, healing, casting out unclean spirits and demons, encountering the unclean and restoring them to the community and right worship, and this is not enough?

The Pharisees hardness of heart echo their ancestors in the desert who constantly complained and were rebellious toward Moses and God. They refused to be grateful that God had freed them from their bondage in Egypt and was caring and providing for them every step of the way on their journey. They refused to see God working in their midst. The Pharisees refused to see in Jesus, the Son of God working miracles in their midst.

We can understand how: He sighed from the depth of his spirit and said, “Why does this generation seek a sign? Amen, I say to you, no sign will be given to this generation” (Mk 8:12). The majority of the Pharisee’s minds were set, they were “motivated not by a sincere desire for truth but by a refusal to relate to God on his own terms. To insist on irrefutable evidence is really a demand for control” (Healy, 153).  Jesus knew there was nothing he could say or do to prove to them that the kingdom of God was at hand in their very midst.

If they had not the eyes to see nor the ears to hear, there was no argument, point, or sign that would have changed their minds. Jesus sighed from the depths of his spirit because their hearts were hardened such that they closed themselves off from the gift of the grace he sought to share. There was nothing left to say, so he then got into the boat to go to the other shore. He was determined to now put his energy into preparing his disciples, to ready them for his death and their mission.

Do we believe, do we really believe, that Jesus is “the way, the truth, and the life” (Jn 14:6)? Do we seek to bend God’s will to our own or are we willing to change, be transformed, and seek to align our will with his? The woman with the hemorrhage for twelve years, Jairus whose daughter died, the Syrophoenician woman whose daughter was possessed, the friends with the man with the withered hand, and the leper, did not ask for a sign, they asked for healing. They trusted, believed, and risked getting closer to Jesus seeking to encounter him despite the barriers in place to prevent them. In each of these cases, Jesus recognized their faith and each received the healing they sought.

In our discernment, we need to be aware of our intent. There is a subtle distinction, but it is important. Are we seeking proof, a sign, on our terms, or do we have faith in Jesus? Do we believe him, trust him, and seek to know God’s will, as Mary did when she asked, “How can this be” (Lk 1:34)? Are we demanding proof, a three-point plan from God before we follow his lead, or do we trust his invitation and believe that he will reveal what we need to do each step of the way? Often times, if we knew the end result and full ramifications of his original request, our doubt would crush our spirit before we even started.

Let us not seek a sign but instead a relationship. Making time to be still, to pray, to open and lift up our hearts and minds to God and spend time with him each day in the living words of the Bible, the Mass, examining our conscience, going to confession regularly, will help us to better know him and his will. May we trust as Mary did when she said, “May it be done to me according to your word” (Lk 1:38), and as did her Son, “not my will but your will be done” (Luke 22:42). Let us take the hands of Jesus and Mary in ours. They who know God the Father can help us to know him as well and help us to discern and accomplish what he calls us to do just for today and that is enough.

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Photo: If we want the best sign of Jesus’ love for us, the crucifix is it.

Healy, Mary. The Gospel of Mark. Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Academic, 2008.

Link for the Mass readings for Monday, February 16, 2026

“What do you have, what can you offer?”

As Christians we are called to be disciples of Jesus, to learn about his life, his teachings, and follow him and his direction. This is not to be an academic exercise. Through reading, meditating, and praying with the Gospels as well as the whole of the Bible; participating in Sunday Mass and holy days of obligation, and if able, more often or even daily, receive Jesus in the Eucharist, we encounter and come to know Jesus.

Just as Jesus called each of the Twelve, we have been called, and as they modeled their lives around and were transformed by the love of Jesus, they and we are called to be apostles. Ones who are sent, as we are at then end of each Mass to proclaim and share that Jesus is who he said he is, and how he has affected our lives. Often when we are reminded of this message though, we may feel inadequate. We may question what it is that we can even possibly offer in an effort to help build the kingdom of God. We may feel we have nothing to share, nothing to give, nothing to say, or that what the Lord asks of us, we do not know how to even begin.

The Twelve expressed doubts and we see this on display. Jesus shows concern for the thousands who had just listened to him for three days and are readying to depart. He has satiated their spiritual hunger, they remained with him for three days listening! He now also is concerned about their physical hunger and that some may collapse or grow faint on their way home. The disciples were bewildered with Jesus’ request. How could they possibly feed the vast crowd of four thousand. Then Jesus asked,  “How many loaves do you have” (Mk 8:5)? With the minuscule amount, of seven loaves and a few fish, Jesus fed the multitude. “They ate and were satisfied” (Mark 8:8), with seven baskets of bread fragments left over.

Jesus asks us, “What do you have, what can you offer?” We may not have been asked or thought about this question before. We may not know initially how to answer. It is worth pondering. Where are there and who might have needs? Each day is a new opportunity to begin again and seek Jesus’ guidance. We can pray and meditate with this account from Mark. We can also look at a statue of Jesus we may have, a picture, a crucifix, or an icon. Then take some deep breaths, meditate on our present life condition, and assess where there is a need in our own life as well as those of others. Once we receive an answer or a nudge, then we can give what we have to Jesus.

Resist looking for the big response or grand plan. Ask yourself what you can offer no matter how small. What you give to Jesus, he will multiply and bring about amazing results. “Jesus takes what little his disciples have to offer, blesses it, and gives it back to them; in the very process the paltry amount mysteriously becomes more than enough to satisfy the needs of all” (Healy, 152). Jesus provides, Jesus works through us. We don’t need to be concerned whether or not we are capable or worthy. The question we need to answer is, “Are we willing?” If “yes”, then, with Jesus, all things are possible.

Photo: Some quiet time listening to Jesus, in the sanctuary of St. Gerard Majella Catholic Church, Los Angeles, CA.

Healy, Mary. The Gospel of Mark. Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Academic, 2008.

Link for the Mass readings for Saturday, February 14, 2026

The Syrophoenician woman exemplifies and models for us the courage and faith of a disciple.

In today’s encounter between Jesus and the Syrophoenician woman, we can observe again the crossing of societal norms. The woman, very much like the woman who had been hemorrhaging for twelve years, was desperate, faithful, and bold. She was “Greek” and a “Syrophoenician by birth” meaning that she was a Gentile in religious observation and also by birth. She then entered the home where Jesus was staying uninvited and “fell at his feet.” She was willing to risk breaking the social taboo of speaking with Jesus on one hand and entering into the place where he was staying uninvited on the other! She did so with the sole purpose that her daughter would be healed.

Jesus meets her with the derogatory language of equating her with a dog, considered one of the most unclean of animals by Jews: “Let the children be fed first. For it is not right to take the food of the children and throw it to the dogs” (Mk 7:27). This woman would have none of Jesus’ rebuke, she wasn’t leaving without receiving an exorcism for her daughter, even if that meant she was putting her life in danger. Her retort, “Lord, even the dogs under the table eat the children’s scraps”, emphasized this point. It was also the key that opened the door for the disciples and us to witness a consistent pattern with Jesus.

Just as the woman who was experiencing the hemorrhage (cf. Mk 5:25-34), both women had the faith and courage to approach Jesus. The outcome of this encounter was also similar to the one that Jesus had with another Gentile, the Roman centurion, who said that he was not worthy for Jesus to enter under his roof. In both accounts, Jesus healed solely by his word from afar. What is important to Jesus is the person’s faith and belief in who he is, was, and always will be – the Son of God!

Jesus’ apparent rebuke to the woman was more a statement of fact. He did come to proclaim the Good News to the “children” first, the chosen ones, God’s children, the people of Israel. And how sad was the day as we saw not too long ago when Jesus came to proclaim this message to those in his hometown and so few had the faith of this woman before him, a Gentile. Her faith not only saved her daughter from the possession of a demon, but was the opening for the Gospel to also be proclaimed to other Gentiles as well as to the Jewish people willing to believe.

Do we have the courage, faith, and belief in Jesus as did the Syrophoenician woman? Are we willing to take the risk of countering pressures from others seeking to divert our closer walk with Jesus? When we let nothing hinder us, including relinquishing control and the reigns of being our own masters, acknowledging that God is God and we are not, believing that Jesus is truly the Son of God and that he is still present and active in our lives, miracles still do happen! Jesus said that if we have faith the size of the mustard seed, we can move mountains (cf. Mt 17:20) and what we ask for in prayer, we will receive (as we shall see in Mark 11:24).

Life is hard. We or someone we know may be facing conflicts, challenges, sorrows, trials, and/or tribulations. We may be experiencing opposing forces that feel as big as mountains, or it may appear that Jesus himself is refusing our plea. Be not afraid! Trust in Jesus! He cares and is present and may just be allowing this time of suffering to awaken a deeper faith that has been there all along but has not yet been actualized.

Embrace any and all of the range of challenges and emotions that you are experiencing and lay them at the feet of Jesus, and then take his hand. With Jesus all things are possible. We just need to believe and trust that our Lord is present with us especially in the midst of our pain and struggles. Jesus has not left us as orphans. We are not alone, but we do need to, as did the Syrophoenician woman, have faith that Jesus is who he says he is. Jesus is the Christ, our Savior and Redeemer, he is present, the kingdom of God at hand, he cares and loves us more than we can imagine, and he will see us through step by faithful step.

Photo: The Woman of Canaan at the Feet of Christ by Jean Germain Drouais.

Link for the Mass readings for Thursday, February 12, 2026

Do we have the faith to be still?

“Why are you terrified? Do you not yet have faith” (Mark 4:40)?

Jesus asked this question of his apostles after he quieted the wind and the waves. These were seasoned fisherman, so for them this must have been quite the storm. They even thought that they were not going to survive it as the waves not only tossed their boat but it also began to take on more and more water. Then looking at Jesus, they turned to thinking that he was indifferent to their need, he didn’t care that they were perishing. Jesus cared. He slept because he trusted in his Father to take care of them.

The faith of Jesus in his Father was rock solid. The visceral threat of death did not shake his faith as it did his closest followers. This is the first time that they appeal to him as teacher. They are growing in their understanding of him, but they are not yet at the point of comprehending that he is the Son of God, who could even command the seas and to obeyed.

Jesus called his apostles and brought them into his inner circle so they could not only experience his teaching, healings, and exorcisms but also to get to know him as the Son of God. As with any relationships, this takes time, and their faith, their trust in him in all circumstances was still growing. But as we read yesterday, faith as small as a mustard seed, will bring large results. This would come to pass with the apostles as well in time.

We too may find ourselves in times of trouble. Our anxieties, fears, and insecurities are a good barometer of our faith in Jesus. Our emotions are human and good as they alert us to a real or perceived threats. The challenge is to discern the real from the perceived and to determine when the threat has passed and resist the temptation to play an unending loop in our minds that keep us stressed.

Where our emotions can present a problem is when we believe in, place our faith in, identify ourselves by them, react from and stay in the endless loop. We need to resist suppressing or feeding our emotions but instead, stop, breath, stretch and identify them. From a place of feeling safer, we can then address the immediate trigger. Trusting in Jesus in the face of our trials is also good step.

The apostles judged that he didn’t care instead of wonder how he could be sleeping through all this? Would he have brought them out into the deep to let them perish? Jesus quieted the their storm and he will help us to calm the real as well as the perceived storms in our lives. He can guide and empower us to sit with our emotions, get to the source of them, identify the deeper root causes, as well as if they are perceived or real, and then work through the them and the situation.

The apostles, did the right thing. They tried everything they could do to correct their dire circumstances, they judged incorrectly that Jesus didn’t care, but they still turned to him for help. We will be better off when we too continue to turn to Jesus in every situation. Our faith and trust in him will grow. We will heal, mature, and grow through the storms in our lives.

Easier said than done? Yes, for both our real and imagined storms. As we place our trust in Jesus, persevere, claim our authority in his name to renounce any attacks of the enemy, all things are possible!

Photo: As the clouds gather, the light still shines through. Taken on the way to celebrate a funeral Mass this morning. We need not fear death, for even it does not have the final say, Jesus does.

Link for the Mass readings for Saturday, January 31, 2026

In seeing and trusting in Jesus, we can experience peace and healing.

“Lord, now let your servant go in peace; your word has been fulfilled: my own eyes have seen the salvation which you prepared in the sight of every people, a light to reveal you to the nations and the glory of your people Israel” (Lk 2:29-32).

As Simeon receives Jesus in his arms to be consecrated to the Lord, he recognizes through the gift of the Holy Spirit that this child, is the one he and Israel have been waiting for. Simeon is witnessing the prophecy of Micah being fulfilled right before his eyes: “The lord whom you seek will come suddenly to his temple” (Micah 3:1). Jesus is the Messiah, the Christ. He has come to fulfill the Law and the Prophets as well as be a light to the Gentiles and to all the Nations.

These verses, called the Canticle of Simeon, as well as in Latin the Nunc Dimittis – from the first words of the canticle – now let depart, be dismissed, as offered above by Simeon, “now let your servant go in peace” was recorded by Luke and is recited each night by those of us who pray the Divine Office or the Liturgy of the Hours. They are prayed during Compline or Night Prayer, the last prayers before going to sleep.

The gift of reading a Gospel passage again and again is that when we are open, God can speak to us in deeper ways or help us to see something we have not seen before. We too can celebrate the birth of Jesus who is our savior, our fulfillment and our light also. We can see as Simeon saw, the face of God revealed before him and so he can go in peace. A good way to go to the land of dreams each night!

We are all invited to meditate with this same passage. We can enter the scene and, like Simeon, receive this child in our arms from Mary and Joseph. We too are invited to see the salvation that is offeredus, the invitation given to us. May we not run from the light of his truth, but may we embrace it so that we can be transformed. Let us glory in the joy of knowing that Jesus came to share his forgiveness, love, mercy, and grace, with each and every one of us. He is the promise of healing that we all need to realize and actualize in our lives.

Jesus invites but does not impose. This Christmas can be just another few days in a cycle of days that pass with no change, or we can immerse ourselves in the readings of this Octave of Christmas so as to take seriously the fact that Jesus is who he said he is, the one the prophets foretold, who the Apostles claimed him to be, and who the Church still announces him to be today: Jesus is the Christ the Son of the Living God. Do we also believe this truth?

I invite you to return to the meditation we started above and to hold the baby Jesus, our savior, in your arms as Simeon did. As you hold him look into his face, see his smile, the glint in his eye, and allow that exchange to melt away any sin of pride, lust, greed, envy, sloth, gluttony, prejudice, and/or wrath. Experience the warmth of his love radiate up from the depths of your soul to be filled with his joy to overflowing.

May we allow his gentle smile to penetrate those areas where we have not wanted to let anyone else in. Those places of pain, trauma, shame, grief, fear, and/or anxiety. In sharing our poverty, our imperfection, and to be willing to take off our masks, we can be loved in places we never thought possible. Let the image of Jesus’ smile be the healing salve that we did not even know we were seeking. As we trust in him and experience his healing, each night we then can go in peace, and each day we can rise and go forth to share that same smile and so radiate the love of Christ with those we encounter.

Painting: Arent de Gelder – the Song of praise from Simeon, ca. 1700-1710

Link of the Mass readings for Monday, December 29, 2025

To heal, we need to trust.

“You will be hated by all because of my name, but whoever endures to the end will be saved” (Mt 10:22).

Why are we talking about being hated the day after Christmas? One reason could be that Jesus, this baby whose birth we just celebrated is “the light that shines in the darkness” (Jn 1:5). The very reality of Jesus’ divinity exposes darkness, he is the very embodiment of Love that exposes evil and hatred.

St. Stephen, whose feast we celebrate today, and whose death we read about in the first reading from Acts, experiences his words personally. For he is killed for the sole purpose of speaking the Gospel. While during his persecution he sees and communicates how even the heavens open for him. The reaction to those who hear his words are infuriation and they then throw him out of the city and “stone him” (cf. Acts 7:54-59).

Stephen radiated the light, love, and wisdom of Jesus and like Jesus he was put to death. His persecutors felt threatened by the light instead of welcoming it and walking out of the darkness that held them bound. Jesus exposes the truth of those dark places within our own hearts, minds, and the very depth of our being as well. What is our response? Will we also reject the light, not aware that it is an invitation to healing and to wholeness?

We may wince at the luminous brightness of Jesus’ light and resist the intimacy of the love he seeks to share. We may unconsciously do so, because we have so often faced so much of the opposite; hurt, pain, betrayal, and lack of understanding or acceptance. Because of our past experiences we don’t want to be hurt again and so we assume a defensive crouch as the best way to protect ourselves. Unfortunately, we are protecting ourselves from the very One who can heal us from our wounds.

Yet, to be fully alive, we need to embrace the light, not hide from it. When we are open to the healing touch of Jesus and receive the gift of his light in our lives, we begin to die to our false self and the lies that we have believed. Allowing ourselves to breathe and rest in God’s loving presence helps us to heal, indentify, and allow Jesus to transform our vices into virtues. Once we allow ourselves to be loved by Jesus, we begin to recognize that we are turned in upon ourselves, and then we can adjust our posture and begin to open ourselves to him. We also begin to recognize that we are not the center of the universe.

As we follow the model of John the Baptist, St. Stephen, and the other saints, we become less so that Jesus becomes more in our lives. We too will face at times the same rejection that Jesus faced. We will be labeled crazy, out of step, simple-minded, irrational, and worse. Yet we are to resist returning to a defensive posture, to refuse to react in kind, but instead, to be present, call upon and trust in the Holy Spirit to give us the words to speak, and allow God to happen. We are to remain open, accepting of the person where they are and as they are, and share the same transformative mercy, love, and forgiveness that Jesus has offered to us.

Change, maturation, and growth is not easy. As disciples, we are to be disciplined and persevere, while at the same time remember that our redemption does not come from our own doing or will power alone. Our healing, restoration, and transformation comes when we are able to share our poverty, our weakness, and wounds with the divine healer. We begin to heal when we trust Jesus, even if only a little at first. When we accept his invitation to walk with him, let him in to our places of darkness, we will receive the healing salve of his love, mercy, and forgiveness.

Transformation is not a one-time event. Christmas is not just a day, it is not just a season. Christmas is a time to remember that Jesus came as an infant, as a savior that in no way is threatening. If we have not been able to trust Jesus, maybe imagine taking him into our arms as a baby and begin there. Allowing him to come close and hold him, will help our hearts and minds to soften and feel safe.

In becoming human in the most vulnerable way as a fetus in the womb of Mary, as an infant in a violent world, Jesus lived and thrived because he trusted in Mary and Joseph and his Father. When we trust in God and begin to know him as a person, we will see his guidance not as a threat, but as a way when we might experience no way. We can begin to experience peace even when in times of conflict and even persecution. We can resist the temptation to react in kind and instead follow the lead of the Holy Spirit for each thought, word, and action we choose.

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Photo: To learn to trust, we need to first learn to breathe and slow down. Christmas Eve in between Masses.

Link for the readings for Friday, December 26, 2025

Joseph and Mary trusted, followed the will of God, and gave us our Savior.

Joseph had an interesting twenty-four hour period. First, he learned that his betrothed, Mary, was “with child”. Betrothal in ancient Judaism was not what we think of today as being engaged. Betrothal is the first step in the marriage process in which the man and wife give consent to marry before at least two witnesses. The wife remains with her family while the husband builds a home for them. Once the time for the second stage of the marriage arrives, they will celebrate for about a week and then at the end, there is a procession of the husband and wife and all present that leads to their home. The couple enters their new home and consummate the marriage.

The key point is that even in the first stage of the marriage, the betrothal period, the couple is considered to be married and have formed a covenantal bond. If on the night of marriage it was uncovered that the woman was not a virgin or that she had conceived a child with another man, the punishment could be as severe as stoning. Although, by the time of the Roman occupation, it was not allowed for the Jews to enact capital punishment. This is why the Jewish leadership brought Jesus to Pilate to get permission for his crucifixion and why the crucifixion was enacted by the Roman centurions.

Providing this context may help us better understand that when Joseph hears the news from Mary that she is pregnant, and knowing that he was not the biological father he decided, to “divorce her quietly.” This could have been because he did not believe Mary, that she conceived this child through the power of the Holy Spirit. He also could have believed Mary, recognizing this was a miracle, but did not feel himself worthy to take on this roll. Either way or if there was some other thoughts swirling in his brain, before being able to act on his decision, the angel Gabriel had a few things to say.

“Joseph, son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary your wife into your home” (Mt. 1:20). Gabriel confirmed Mary’s story and was asking Joseph to fulfill his vow to Mary and to commence with completing the second stage of their marriage. Gabriel also called Joseph, “Son of David.”

These words reveal that the royal line of David did not die out at the destruction of the Temple in 587 BC at the hands of the Babylonians. Joseph was an heir to the throne of David. Gabriel continued, “You will name him Jesus” (Mt. 1:21). In calling Joseph to name Jesus, even though he was not his biological father, meant that he was asking him to adopt him legally and that meant he was just as much his son as if by blood. Meaning that Jesus would be part of the royal lineage and an heir to the throne as Joseph was.

The end of Gabriel’s message was the most powerful. Jesus or Yeshua in Aramaic, means God or the LORD saves, and this son of Joseph and Mary was not just to be the long awaited Messiah, he is: “Emmanuel, which means ‘God with us'” (Mt. 1:23) and he be the savior of the children of God, he would save them from their sins. If Joseph did not know how to respond to Mary’s version of her account, what about now? Joseph followed Gabriel’s opening line and was not afraid. Joseph fulfilled his word, trusted in God, fulfilled the second stage of marriage, and was willing, ready and able to provide and protect his young family from the challenges that were about to unfold.

Both Joseph and Mary awaited the coming of the Messiah just as so many of their kinsmen, yet neither could believe the part they were asked to play in being the parents of the Son of God. Yet, once they were clear of the plan that God had for them they faithfully assumed their responsibility. Because of Joseph and Mary’s faith and trust in God, their ascent to follow the will of God, the second person of the Trinity, the Son of God, took on flesh and became man in the virgin womb of Mary.

As Jesus would later speak during his public ministry, “Blessed are those who hear the word of God, and observe it” (see Luke 11:28). Joseph and Mary did just that and continued to do so with each thought word and deed going forward. They are models for us and Jesus their Son is more than a model, but the one who saves us, gives us the strength, guidance, and hope when we may feel weak, lost, or experiencing sorrow.

There are so many anonymous people within and without of the Church who are just like Mary and Joseph. They quietly and diligently go about their daily lives as pencils in God’s hands. They are not only open to hearing but also following the guidance of the Word of God. They ascent to the truth and follow through with their actions. They may not have even be aware of the profound effect that their choices have had on others.

Throughout the Bible, God calls those who are not necessarily worthy, but humble and willing to play their part in salvation history. Each one of us is invited to participate as well. If our heart aches about a particular issue and we may wonder why God does not intercede and correct a certain situation, he may be convicting our conscience, moving our hearts to compassion. The injustice that tugs at our heartstrings could be an invitation from the Holy Spirit to be the hands and feet of Jesus to help to make right what has gone wrong.

Mary and Joseph waited with great expectation for the Messiah, never in their wildest dreams would they have imagined that they would play a central role in his birth. Never would they have dreamed that he would be more than the Messiah, he would be “Emmanuel, God with us.” Jesus remained fully divine while he became fully human. If it were not for the care, guidance, and support of Mary and Joseph, things would have gone badly for Jesus and for us all.

May we allow our hearts and minds to be conformed to the movement of the love of Holy Spirit as did Mary and Joseph. Jesus, Mary, Joseph, and the saints have paved the way of salvation history for us to follow. We are invited to walk on, even if with baby steps in the beginning, and play our part by daily allowing each thought, word, and action to be filtered by the Holy Spirit so that we can engage in small acts of great love with each choice we make.

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Painting: “All is Calm” by Gabriel Heaton from havenlight.com

Link for the Mass readings for Sunday, December 21, 2025

May we trust the guiding light of God and follow his lead.

The Gospel of Luke and today’s first reading from the Book of Judges both continue the theme of divine intervention through angelic messengers and the message they convey is new life. The wife of Manoah, not named, and Zechariah, the husband of Elizabeth, both receive the message of an impending birth. The miraculous claim here is that both women are beyond child bearing age. These accounts also bring to mind the blessing of the conception of Isaac in the womb of Sarah, wife of Abraham.

For women of ancient Israel, being barren was a tremendous cause for shame; for many women, their worth was defined by their ability to bear children. This was in evidence in the words of Elizabeth. When she was aware she had conceived she said, “So has the Lord done for me at a time when he has seen fit to take away my disgrace before others.” (Lk 1:25). Her shame and anguish, her long period of barrenness, through the words of Gabriel were coming to an end.

Many women today feel similar anguish and shame in that they desire to have a child and are not able to. There are many reasons for infertility, but there may also be a plan that God has in place that is not readily apparent at the time. One may be God’s timing, for Mary it was too soon! For Manoah’s wife and Elizabeth it was about time! But in each case God had his plan and timing in mind. For some women there may be another way of serving other than being a birth mother.

Adoption or foster parenting of children who are in desperate need of safe, stable homes are direct options. Some more indirect ways could be assisting in caring for nieces and nephews, cousins, teaching catechesis or working with youth groups. Other ways to serve could be through more time consuming active ministries, vocations, or jobs. There can also be underlying medical conditions as well as the stress of trying too hard. I know of two occasions in which each couple adopted, shortly thereafter, both couples were blessed to conceive a child. I cannot imagine wanting to give birth to my own child and not be able to do so, nor can I imagine the inner anguish that may cause. I do believe that God has a plan for each of us and when we align ourselves with his will we will truly be happy and fulfilled.

Advent is a time of waiting and anticipation. There are periods of waiting in all of our lives and we can certainly feel impatient with God and ourselves. We have certain expectations, intentions, and plans that we would like to see fulfilled, but often are not capable of seeing far enough down the road to notice if those plans are apparent or actual goods. The light at the end of a tunnel could actually be a train!

When we remain faithful like Manoah’s wife, Elizabeth, and Mary, and resist the temptation to go off on our own, while seeking to understand God’s will, we will find fulfillment and joy better than we could ever imagine on our own. Each of us are called in our own unique way to bear Christ to a worn and weary world desperately in need of new life!

We will also enjoy the time of waiting more when we believe that God has our best intentions in mind and that following his will is the best course of action. In the remaining days of Advent, let us trust that God is preparing us for something even greater than we can ever hope for or imagine!

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Photo: God will give us enough light to see a few steps ahead. When we walk those steps, he will offer some more light for the next few.

Link for the Mass readings for Thursday, December 19, 2025

Jesus, Mary, and Joseph, please help us to follow the will of God as you did.

Joseph heard the news that Mary, his betrothed, was with child. In ancient Judaism, a betrothal was the first stage of marriage in which the couple exchanged their consent before at least two witnesses. They were considered to be legally married and yet the woman would still live in her home for up to a year. The second stage happened when the bride moved into the groom’s home and they consummated the marriage.

In Matthew sharing the information that Joseph and Mary were betrothed, indicated that the child was not biologically Joseph’s. Matthew does disclose the thoughts or emotions of Joseph about what he felt when he found out this news. Whatever inner turmoil he had, he chose not to bring Mary’s case to a public hearing, he did not want expose Mary to any shame. He was not going to make a public spectacle of Mary, but instead decided to “divorce her quietly.” Before he made his final decision though, Joseph made an excellent choice regarding the discernment of serious matters. He slept on the idea before acting.

During Joseph’s sleep, the angel of the Lord delivered a message. “Joseph, son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary your wife into your home. For it is through the Holy Spirit that this child has been conceived in her. She will bear a son and you are to name him Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins” (Mt 1:20-21). When Joseph awoke, he was obedient to the angel of the Lord. Joseph was willing to change his mind and took his wife into his home (Mt 1:24).

We may hear this so many times, we may miss the power of Joseph’s choice. He could have felt anger that the child was not his own and that Mary was unfaithful, which is what most of us go to when we read this account. There is another interpretation of the “reverential fear view,” which “was held by Sts. Thomas Aquinas, Bernard, Basil, and Ephraim. In this view, Mary told Joseph about her conceiving by the Holy Spirit and he responds with religious awe over the mystery of what God is working in Mary” (Curtis and Sri, 44). Joseph, like many of the prophets when encountering the work of God concretely do not feel worthy to follow through on what is being asked of him.

We don’t know what was going through Joseph’s mind before the angel, but we do know that he as did Mary once he was clear of God’s will trusted in God’s will, and “that has made all the difference” to quote Robert Frost’s poem, “The Road Not Taken.” Because of Mary and Joseph’s, “yes”, to God and to family, the Son of God became man and opened up heaven for us in the humanity he assumed.

God often works in the same way when dealing with us. What may appear to be absurd, unimaginable, or downright impossible, is indeed possible when we align our will with God’s will. This is the week of Joy in Advent.

The source of joy does not come from external experiences but from an encounter with and acceptance of God’s invitation. Joy is an experience of communion with the love of God. This has been given to us in greater measure because Jesus became one with us, and so upon his ascension into heaven, we too can experience the loving communion he experiences with his Father. We can also experience the love of the Holy Spirit in our encounter with family and friends, this exchange of giving and receiving of ourselves in conversation, shared experiences, and in resolving challenges and conflicts together.

Mary and Joseph both received incredible news, that neither of them fully comprehended. They could have easily responded in a different way. They could have given into very real fears. Instead, they trusted in and obeyed God, they chose family, and because they did, we can rejoice not just during this week but we can rejoice always! The same God who sought out Mary and Joseph has a plan for us as well.

Mary and Joseph followed God’s lead and were willing to allow their unborn child, Jesus, to come to full term. Because they were willing to risk public ridicule and worse, Jesus entered into our human condition. There may be a difficult situation we are dealing with, we may feel like we are on our own, and that there is no way out, and/or no help on the horizon. God will make a way when there appears to be no way, and reveal it to us through his Son. We may not understand either, but like Mary and Joseph, let us trust in God, one another.

Jesus, Mary, and Joseph, please intercede on our behalf this Advent Season such that we will resist the temptation of taking each of our family members for granted, and instead give others the benefit of the doubt, appreciate and be thankful for one another. Help us to react less and breathe deeply more. Help us to be more understanding, patient, and willing to forgive, such that even though we have experienced past hurts, conflicts, disagreements, and different points of view, we may ultimately experience time and again the joy of being there for one another, through thick and thin.

Photo: Blessed to spend time with the Holy Family each evening for my holy hour.

Link for the Mass readings for Thursday, December 18, 2025

“I will give you rest.”

Verses that we read, such as: “Come to me, all you who labor and are burdened, and I will give you rest” (Mt 11:28) really hit the spot, they arrive at the right time. I am sure that if you are reading these words you may also welcome Jesus’ invitation. Yet what is the labor and burden that we need to rest from? Teachers, administrators and students, of which I was a part for decades are coming into crunch time now as the end of the quarter or term is so much closer. Those in other occupations also work long hours, and sometimes, two or three jobs, just to get by.

Many also who oversee and care for their home, others with children, elder parents, family members, and dealing with family issues that can be enormous, especially at this time of year. Add to the above Christmas preparations: decorating, putting up lights, shopping, buying presents, cooking, baking, writing and mailing Christmas cards can also add to feeling weighed down.

Unfortunately, there are way too many who are not so much burdened by work but the lack of access to gainful or meaningful employment. They are burdened with keeping the bills paid and a roof over their heads as the temperatures fall. Some have no home or family, they are burdened with getting from day to day, seeking ways to get food, clean clothes, a place to wash and relieve themselves. Christmas cards are a distant thought. Many others are burdened and living in fear that they or their family member or members may be deported.

Speaking of fear, how many of us are burdened by fear, anxiety, stress, and strain from a myriad of swirling reasons? Concerns about our family, community, country, and the world are a burden that can also weigh heavily. Advent and Christmas, even when life is more stable, are still times in which many buttons can be pressed and many stressors can be triggered. What is the adage that is offered when family and friends gather? Resist talking about politics, religion, and… we all can add a few others.

If you are feeling weary and worn as we draw close to the midway point of this Advent Season, it is a good opportunity to make some time to just stop and take a slow, deliberate breath. Notice your shoulders coming out of your ears. Embrace the invitation of Jesus and rest in him. Allow the burdens to come to mind, then visualize yourself giving them to Jesus, open yourself to his guidance, ask for his help for the day to day challenges, and seek who may be best able to assist you in any particular situation. Slowing down may help us to become more aware of any sins that we feel burdened by. This is a good time to rest and trust in the forgiveness of Jesus and confess to him in the Sacrament of Reconciliation. Jesus will forgive you and bring you a lightness and fresh start!

Our God “does not faint or grow weary, and his knowledge is beyond scrutiny. He gives strength to the fainting; for the weak he makes vigor abound” (Isaiah 40:28-29). We do not have to deal with anything alone. We have help and support. My friend, Pastor Jerry Scott, taught me years ago a life lesson which I still return to, more often now as I begin my sixth decade. When a person is chopping down a tree, exerting a lot of energy and effort, but finding the results insufficient, he or she needs to realize that they need to step back, take a breath, and sharpen their ax. With a little rest, renewal, and a sharpened blade, the job can be accomplished sooner.

Let’s figuratively do the same daily with each of our endeavors. Let’s resist just putting our heads down and plowing through with blinders on and instead take some time to stop and assess from time to time what we need, where we need help, and yoke ourselves to Jesus for his guidance and strength. Sometimes, making time to breathe and plan, we can use our time more efficiently.

When we choose to intentionally breathe more, we can react less. We can bring our challenges to Jesus and he will help us to carry the burden, as we follow his will, we can work smarter instead of harder. In developing a pattern and place of trust and hope in him, seeking his guidance and direction this Advent, we will renew our strength and soar as with eagle’s wings; we will run and not grow weary, we walk and not grow faint (cf. Isaiah 40:31)!

Photo: Spending time outside, taking some breaths, and trusting in God, can do wonders.

Link for the Mass readings for Wednesday, December 10, 2025