love

Willing the good of those who are enemies, who hate and curse us is possible with the love of Jesus as our foundation.

Jesus said to his disciples: “To you who hear I say, love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you” (Luke 6:27-28).

If we thought the beatitudes and the woes that we experienced yesterday were a challenge, buckle up! Today, Jesus takes things up a notch. The Prince of Peace is inviting us to walk along the path to peace. The peace that Jesus invites us to engage in is not just an absence of violence but a peace that is grounded in mutual respect and unity. No matter where we might look, there are very few examples or models for us to see this Gospel being put into practice. We instead see a consistent engagement in rhetoric, language, and outright hostility that promotes dehumanization, division, contempt, hatred, and vileness. These voices not only rise in our secular and political discourse but also there is a growing din within the Church as well.

Jesus is also leading us away from the temptation to swing the pendulum the other way, such that what we think, say, and do has the substance of milk toast. We become so careful not to offend that we don’t share our ideas or what we truly believe to avoid conflict. Staying away from hot button issues and the taboos of talking religion and politics is not a way to bring about peaceful coexistence nor solve important issues.

Neither an overly aggressive nor a bland tolerance of engagement is what Jesus is presenting in today’s Gospel. Jesus is inviting us to allow ourselves to be healed and transformed from the survival mentality of fight or flight or being paralyzed by trauma. To move beyond our primal, reactive instincts, we need to feel safe. By breathing and allowing ourselves to be loved by God through meditation on and praying with his word and listening to him and his guidance in silence each day, we can move beyond placing anyone and anything else before God. As we grow in relationship with God, he becomes our rock foundation.

With God as our foundation, we can begin to open up to the reality of what Jesus offers in today’s Gospel. Who of us would agree with his teaching to love our enemies, those who hate, curse, and mistreat us? Jesus is calling us to love one another as he loves each and every one of us. This love is more than the emotional or sentimental surface level of love we are used to. Jesus calls us to a higher love, to have a sincere intent to will the good of each other, even and especially when we feel or think there is nothing to like about a person. This is how we can love even an enemy, by willing their good, wanting the best for them, which also is best for us.

If we want to see a change in our divisive and polarized time, we need to begin with ourselves, receive the message of Jesus, and begin, little by little, to put his teachings into practice. We will do so when we encounter one another, one person at a time, sit down, talk, and listen, resist reacting, give the benefit o of the doubt, and love one another. Easy, no, possible, yes, when we allow God to open our hearts and minds to the love God wants to share with and through each of us. As we breathe, receive, rest, and abide in God’s love there is a better chance we will love one another.

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Photo: Storm clouds will threaten, but the light and love of Christ will always overcome.

Link for the Mass readings for Thursday, September 10, 2026

Let us trust in God. His greatest joy is that we will be free to experience his love and joy!

Blessed are you when people hate you, and when they exclude and insult you, and denounce your name as evil on account of the Son of Man” (Lk 6:22).

Feel like this statement is a little counter to our sensibilities? Who of us seeks to be hated? Do we wake up each morning and say to ourselves, “Self, I hope I receive a good deal of hate from those closest to me today.” No. We want to be affirmed and loved and that is a good. The important point is that we are to have our desire to be loved properly ordered by first allowing God to love us before anyone else. Knowing the love of God helps us to then not be left unbalanced like someone just pulled the rug out from under us when they are a bit short or snarky with us.

If we read the statement a bit closer, we see Jesus is going deeper than just the normal everyday conflicts that we experience. He is not asking us to seek to be hated. He is saying that we will be blessed when we are authentically living our faith and then we receive disdain or hatred. Jesus received it from those of his own hometown when he began his public ministry. We don’t live our faith with the goal of being liked or loved by the world, we live our faith as we have been loved by God, and then share what he gives us to share. In the words of St. Bernadette of Soubirous, our “job is to inform not to convince.”

The Beatitudes are contrary to much of what too many of us are tempted by when seek our satisfaction, security, and fulfillment. Much of us are lured in some form or fashion, by power, fame, wealth, pleasure, and celebrity. What is more, how many of us who proclaim to be people of faith resist Jesus’ teachings because of self-centered reasons? We hold on to things that keep us from God, that really do not make us happy. We do so because we do want to be loved and belong. The challenge is we are “looking for love in all the wrong places” as sung by Johnny Lee.

In today’s Gospel account from Luke, Jesus began to teach his disciples on this deeper level. He had just chosen the twelve by name and that number would not have slipped by them. Their thoughts were more than likely moving closer to the realization that Jesus was the Messiah, the promised heir of David. Would he be gathering them together to restore the twelve tribes of Israel and overthrow the occupying power of Rome? Yes, but not in the way they were thinking.

Jesus’ presentation was not about taking up military or physical armaments, but spiritual ones of attaining the  kingdom through four blessings and dashing the common hope with four woes. Jesus’ message is a universal message, an invitation to and for all who have ears to hear as well as hearts and minds open to receive. Jesus spoke not only to his twelve newly hand picked followers as wells as those from “Judea and Jerusalem” but also those from the “coastal region of Tyre and Sidon” (Luke 6:17). That Jesus did not dismiss but was teaching those from Tyre and Sidon would not have been missed either. They were from Gentile territory.

Jesus’ teachings challenged all present and they challenge us today to evaluate where we are placing our trust and security. If we are placing our trust in the things of this world, the four woes section is for us, for that which is finite and material are fleeting and passing. By placing our trust in Jesus, his Father and the love shared between them, the Holy Spirit, the beatitudes will lead us to experience joy, peace, and love.

Being poor, hungry, in mourning, hated, excluded, insulted and denounced as evil will bring us happiness? Yes. When we are faithful to God, each of them counter the typical substitutes that we can put in place before our relationship with God. Each of the beatitudes that Jesus offers are invitations to experience true, deep and abiding joy. We just need to be willing to relinquish putting self first and seeking pursuits counter to God and his will.

When we rely more on God and less on material things, even relationships; when we depend more on God alone, our relationships and our pursuits will be more properly ordered. With God first, we will experience order and peace and… that all elusive rest of the soul! That rest is so fleeting to so many of us because we are looking to so many other things but God to find rest and love. To be serious about being Jesus’ disciple, we are to look to the things of heaven and not of this world. Learning and living the beatitudes is just such a move. No easy task but when we look at each one and begin to detach from the attachments they allude to, “we will rejoice and leap for joy” (Lk 6:23)!

Joy because we will no longer be ensured by the things of this world and instead experience the inner freedom to enjoy the good things that God gives. We will be fueled not by the advancement or aggrandizement of self, but by the emptying of our ego. We will have room in our hearts to receive the love of Jesus, the source of our joy, which wells up from within and never runs dry! Jesus is the kingdom of Heaven that is at hand and he will lead us, if we are willing to follow, to the ultimate desire and deepest craving and hunger of our being, to be in communion with God and one another.

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Photo: EnJOYed another beautiful sunset painted on God’s canvas of creation last evening. Lightning strikes in the central smaller cloud, not visible. May you experience a taste of the joy God is seeking to bring you today!

Link for the Mass readings for Wednesday, September 9, 2026

When choosing the love of God, we will resist reaction and help to foster reconciliation.

Oppressive clouds and destructive winds of division, polarization, tribalism, nationalism, racial unrest, violence, and war continue to swirl and can wear down and weary us. If we stay focused on the chaos, we can rip ourselves apart, especially when we engage in reacting to the lack of respect in kind. Then instead of being a healing salve, we contribute to our and other’s unrest. Our Gospel today offers some hope.

The opening and close of today’s Gospel reading is very telling: “Jesus said to his disciples: ‘If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone’ ” (Mt 18:15) and “For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them” (Mt 18:20). Jesus provides for us a model and he himself is the source for engaging with conflict with the goal of healing and reconciliation.

Jesus offered the steps for coming together to resolve disharmony. First one to one, then three two one, then if the person still does not see their error, bringing in the elders and leaders of the Church. Each is an appeal to the conscience of the individual who has offended, who has sinned, who has caused harm, and at the foundation of each attempt is the intent to not bring a brother or sister back, not to knock them down with condemnation but appeal to them through conviction. Jesus insists that we resist the temptations of gossip, character assassination, and dehumanization. In this way, we can work to hold each other accountable in love, and invite a movement toward reconciliation and mutual respect.

Jesus calls us to love our neighbors as ourselves, as God has loved us. We are to embrace the gift and grace of our own God given dignity and diversity. Each one of us are a unique gift and expression of our loving God and Father that no one has nor ever will again express. Yet, we will not attain the harmony and peace of Jesus’ call for unity if we keep making decisions rooted in our fear and prejudices, if we continue to crouch and operate from a defensive posture and feed our insecurities.

On our own initiative, from a posture of I am right and you are wrong, and even with the best of intentions, we will fall short, for “with human beings this is impossible, but for God all things are possible” (Mt. 19:26). As we deal with conflict and division, we need to resist reacting, give another the benefit of the doubt, and see each other as human beings first and foremost. With two or more, not enter into gossip and slander, but instead be willing to pray with and for one another, knowing and trusting that Jesus will be with us. Jesus, who spoke and stilled the storm, can speak in and through us to quiet the storms of our own chaos within as well as the winds of chaos without.

When we are willing to unite in prayer, to accompany one another, to seek reconciliation, and to work together to resolve our conflicts, there will be a clear path toward peace. St Paul in his willingness to be transformed by Jesus got this. We are to love our neighbor as ourself, for “Love does no evil to the neighbor; hence, love is the fulfillment of the law” (Romans 13:9-10). Even though the darkness and gathering gloom of division, dehumanization, polarization, and prejudice appears to be growing, let us place our standard in the love of Christ. Let us meet hate with love, division with reconciliation, and see each other as beloved daughters and sons of God.

Photo: “[T]he light shines in the darkness and the darkness has not overcome it” (John 1:5).

Link for the Mass readings for Sunday, September 6, 2026

“You have to let her go.”

Sometime in mid-December of 2022 in the chapel of St. Vincent de Paul Regional Seminary, I knelt in the pew during my holy hour. I asked Jesus why I could not feel the love toward him that I felt for JoAnn. He said gently, “You have to let her go.” Then I sobbed.

Jesus was not saying I needed to forget JoAnn, or the memories of our twenty-three years together. I needed to let go of my attachment, of holding on to who she was, so that I could experience her as she is now with Jesus. She had died September 2, 2019, so just three years and a few months before that moment. As I type these words, it has been seven years since JoAnn’s death. In following the guidance of Jesus, slowly, I have been letting her go.

What has been priceless is that I still have the gift of wonderful memories, but also now the gift of short, but grace filled moments where she feels close. As I have grown closer to Jesus since then, as he becomes more primary in my life, I have experienced more of his love, and I have also felt closer to JoAnn as she is now.

To honor JoAnn’s seventh anniversary in heaven (I hope), I offer the words of Pope Benedict XVI that have provided me comfort. May they provide comfort for you too.

“Dear friends, the Solemnity of All Saints and the Commemoration of all the faithful departed tells us that only those who can recognize a great hope in death, can live a life based on hope. If we reduce man exclusively to his horizontal dimension, to that which can be perceived empirically, life itself loses its profound meaning. Man needs eternity for every other hope is too brief, too limited for him. Man can be explained only if there is a Love which overcomes every isolation, even that of death, in a totality which also transcends time and space. Man can be explained, he finds his deepest meaning, only if there is God. And we know that God left his distance for us and made himself close. He entered into our life and tells us: “I am the resurrection and the life; he who believes in me, though he die, yet shall he live, and whoever lives and believes in me shall never die” (Jn 11:25-26).”

Photo: My heart still soars when I see your smile! Happy anniversary, my heart and my love!!!

Full address of Pope Benedict XVI General Audience Wednesday, 2 November 2011

Jesus faced rejection, ridicule, and death and was undeterred because he trusted his Father without hesitation in every situation.

“They rose up, drove him out of the town, and led him to the brow of the hill on which their town had been built, to hurl him down headlong. But he passed through the midst of them and went away” (Lk 4:29-30).

“They” were those from Jesus’ hometown of Nazareth. They could not accept that he was anything but a carpenter’s son. He did not help his case any as the crowd became a bit more restless. Not only did he say that the prophecy of Isaiah was fulfilled in their hearing – implying that he is the Messiah, but that the Year of Jubilee prophesied was not only for the Jews, the Chosen of God, but also the Gentiles as well.

Referring to Elijah working a miracle through Zarephath and her son, and Elisha, through Naaman the Syrian presented them as God reaching out to those that were on the outside and that they received the prophet’s message and believed in God. Jesus’ own did not take to kindly to Jesus poking the bear. What followed next is our humanity at its worst when it rises to a mob mentality. They moved as one to lead him out of town and hurl him headlong down the side of a hill.

In praying with this verse, I imagined myself with Jesus in his synagogue in Nazareth, listening to him teaching the people. I watched how the people were first listening to every letter of his message mesmerized and moved by them. But was then astonished as their disposition changed. Their eyes of wonder were clouded over like a once clear, blue sky, that was filled by approaching storm clouds.

The voices of rebuke reached a fever pitch after Jesus shared how God blessed the widow and Naaman, then their bodies rose as one, and they moved in on Jesus. My and Jesus’ eyes met and he mouthed for me to stay close to him. I attempted to do so as the crowd grasped at Jesus and pushed him toward the exit.

I squirmed through the swarming bodies to get outside quickly, and then slipped from the weight and movement of the crowd. Keeping pace, I kept my eyes on Jesus while keep at a safe distance so as not to be trampled. The energy of the crowd was electrified as if a lightning strike was about to unleash. Outside, the bodies did not spread further apart but instead closed into a tighter unit. It was harder for me to see Jesus, I quickened my pace and ran to the right of the converging crowd which now hummed and looked more like a swarm of angry bees as they drew closer to the brow of the hill.

A roar then erupted from the front as arms with clenched fists were raised. Then a sweeping force of pushed ahead like a wave. To my right I spied a man walking away at a clam, yet steady pace. I dashed to the hill side in time to see three or four bodies tumbling down the hill. People were jeering and shouting. I looked again to the back of the man who had now put a good distance between us.

I chose not to run down the hill but toward the man, who I recognized as Jesus walking away. As I closed the gap, I chanced a glance back over my shoulder and saw that the crowd was still fixated down the hill. More shouts echoed but no one looked toward or followed us. I turned back and realized I had fallen behind. I sprinted to catch Jesus.

Panting as I settled into Jesus’ pace, I glanced at Jesus as he walked. Then I saw his face. He radiated a smile of joy. Jesus kept his pace but turned to meet my look of wonder. His smile only increased when I imagined he saw my look of amazement.

“Jesus, the people of your own hometown just rose up to hurl you over the hill. How can you be smiling?”

Jesus breathed deeply, as he kept his steady pace. After a few more strides he said, “I am saddened that their hearts were so closed, their hearts so hardened, but I feel joy in knowing that I did my Father’s will. Even though my own rejected me, even though they had no faith in me, I was faithful to what my Father sent me to do.”

I stumbled then, tripped, and fell. I rolled to sit up. Jesus, stopped and turned to look at me. “The same will be so, when I am raised up on the Cross.”

Our eyes met and we held each other’s gaze. Jesus then smiled again and reached out his hand. I looked at it for a moment and held my breath. I looked up at him again. There was no judgment on his face, but there was a clear, unspoken invitation. I then took a deep breath and placed my hand in his. Without hesitation his strong, calloused, carpenter’s hand grasped mine and he lifted me up like a feather.

Jesus faced his suffering with joy. The people of his hometown not only did not understand him, they rejected him, betrayed, and sought to cast him out. He knew without a hesitation or doubt that he was doing his Father’s will and that his Father loved him. Jesus was like the eye of a storm in the hurricane of his experiences because he was anchored by the bond of love that was unbreakable between him and his Father. That love was iron clad because he always said, “Yes”, without hesitation to his Father’s will. Even to the Cross.

Jesus invites us today to take his hand and allow him to lift us up beyond any anxiety, fear, insecurities, sin, darkness, distraction, or diversion. He is inviting us to let go of anything that is not of his Father’s will. Are we worthy? No. Capable? No. Are we willing? If yes, Jesus will provide the rest! Let us place our hand in Jesus’, let him lift us up. As we take one breath, one step with Jesus today, just one, we begin an amazing journey of healing and wholeness with the Father through the love of the Holy Spirit !!!

Photo: Christ Carrying the Cross — El Greco

Link for the Mass readings for Monday, August 31, 2026

How can we have enough oil to keep our torches burning all the way to the wedding feast?

“The foolish ones said to the wise, ‘Give us some of your oil, for our lamps are going out.’ But the wise ones replied, ‘No, for there may not be enough for us and you. Go instead to the merchants and buy some for yourselves'” (Mt 25: 8-9).

The context for Jesus’ parable was the procession to the wedding feast which was the beginning of the second stage of marriage after the time of betrothal that could take up to a year. One of the roles for this procession was carrying torches to light the way to the home of the groom from the home of the bride’s family home. They needed torches as the procession began after sunset. The wise virgins were not being self-centered or stingy but truly prudent and wise. If they ran out in sharing the oil before the completion of the procession that would have been a terrible embarrassment for the bride and groom. It could also lead to injury by having to walk in the darkness.

Jesus is doing more here though in this parable than introducing prudent discipleship. The wise and foolish virgins are representative of those invited to participate in the wedding feast, an image of participating in the kingdom of heaven. They who have their lamps burning brightly do so because they are living their faith in practice and reflecting the light of Jesus as they witness their faith to others. They cannot give their oil though. Each person must receive the invitation of Jesus and decide to live their faith and put it into practice in their own lives.

No one can do this for them. The foolish virgins are those that are not prepared or ready because they lack the commitment, the discipline, and the actual living out of their life of faith. This is shown starkly when the foolish virgins come to the locked door. They are not allowed in to participate in the wedding feast because the groom, Jesus, says that he does not know them. They are members of the community but they “have offended the bridegroom by their irresponsibility and lack of preparation.” This is “a claim of disassociation, of renouncing his former ties with them” (Mitch and Sri, 192). These virgins represent those disciples that have not put their faith into practice through prayer, worship, and good works. “It is one thing to make a strong start in the Christian life, to believe in Jesus and to commit oneself to repentance (4:17). But this commitment must be sustained over time” (Mitch and Sri, 193).

We gain some insight that the wise and foolish for Jesus has a different connotation than what the world deems to be wise and foolish. St. Paul in his letter to the Church at Corinth wrote that “the message about the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God” (I Cor. 1:18). The cross was not only a horrific symbol of oppression, it was a sign of the finality of death. To the world the cross showed that Jesus could not be the messiah, for he could not even save himself.

The imagery of the cross was still raw for the first few centuries and was depicted rarely in early Christian art. And yet, in one of the earliest accounts of the New Testament we have Paul not just discussing but proclaiming victory in the cross: “We proclaim Christ crucified” (I Cor. 1:22). A foolish and absurd statement in the view of the world, yet one of foundational wisdom to the disciple and apostles of Christ.

This was and continues to be the banner call of the Christian. Jesus died, and yet conquered death and rose again. This is a statement of faith that we can only make an ascent to through our belief and experience of, trust in, and deepening our relationship with, the one who died, conquered death and rose again. St. John Chrysostom (349-407) wrote that: “For the Apostles themselves came in not by wisdom, but by faith, and surpassed the heathen wisemen in wisdom and loftiness, and that so much the more, as to raise disputes is less than to receive by faith the things so far” (p. 249, The Word on Fire Bible).

Our faith is not a blind faith that we dumbly believe and follow along like lemmings. It is our reason seeking understanding and allowing God’s grace to build on our nature. Our faith grows as it did with the Apostles, through our encounter and lived experience with Jesus. Just like any other relationship, we build it with Jesus through time spent being loved by him, so we come to know him, love him, persevere in serving him through good works, such as the corporeal and spiritual works of mercy.

Jesus was clear that we do not know the time or hour of his return. We do not need to be worried about the time or the hour as long as we are faithful to and trust in him with everything and follow his will and do whatever he tells us to do. When he does return, we, like the wise virgins, will be ready to be welcomed into and enter the wedding feast.

Photo: Daily prayer, weekly Mass, participating in the sacraments, quiet time with Jesus, studying and mediating with Scripture, following the will of God, loving and serving one another, will help us to have enough oil to light out torches and keep them burning.

Link for the Mass readings for Friday, August 28, 2026

Mitch, Curtis and Edward Sri. The Gospel of Matthew. Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Academic, 2010.

Word on Fire Bible: Acts, Letters, and Revelation. Park Ridge, IL: Word on Fire Ministries, 2022.

We are faithful and prudent servants when we receive, rest in and share God’s love.

“Who, then, is the faithful and prudent servant, whom the master has put in charge of his household to distribute to them their food at the proper time” (Mt 24:45)?

Jesus is calling us to be that “faithful and prudent servant” and the household we are to serve is our own homes, churches, places of worship, communities, states, countries, and world. For the world is our home and those we serve are our brothers and sisters. Jesus’ call is a universal call to solidarity. We are all invited to be united in this effort for and with one another because we are all created in the image of our loving God and Father.

God has created us, not as automatons or robots, or drone worker bees. He has created us as unique persons, one of a kind, distinct wonders that have never been nor ever will be again. Within our uniqueness, there is also the gift of diversity. We are not intended to be separate from one another, for God has created all of us to be interconnected, to be loved, and to love. What affects one, affects all.

Jesus clearly emphasizes this distinction in his parable, often called the Judgment of the Nations, when he stated: “Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you drink? When did we see you a stranger and welcome you, or naked and clothe you? When did we see you ill or in prison, and visit you?” And the king will say to them in reply, “Amen, I say to you, whatever you did for one of these least brothers of mine, you did for me” (Mt 25: 37-40).

Being faithful and prudent servants means being aware of and willing to attend to the needs of the hungry, the thirsty, the stranger, the naked, those ill, and/or imprisoned. This is not an exhaustive list. We are to allow our hearts to be open to have compassion upon those for whom God calls us to serve. We begin this process with prayer, for prayer is the most important thing that we can do each day. We are to make the time to spend in silence, to step away from the busyness and the noise, so we can hear God’s word and better discern his will.

Not all of us will be moved in the same way or for the same cause. It is important to remain open to the nudge of the Holy Spirit, trust his direction, and follow him regarding how and who we can serve, no matter how small of a gesture. One thing that can limit us is if we are unwilling to admit to and confess our sins, prejudices, insecurities, and/or biases. When we have the humility to confess and willingness to change and heal, God is ready to forgive, bring healing, and transform our hearts of stone into hearts of flesh.

As we are forgiven and begin to heal, we experience more of the love and mercy of Jesus. He empowers and strengthens us with his love. St. Teresa of the Andes said it well, “his love for me is infinite – an eternal incomprehensible love that led him to become man, that made him to be transformed into bread in order to be with me, to suffer and console me. If you give yourself to prayer, you’ll find that God will show himself to you, and make you fall in love with him.”

We become “faithful and prudent servants” when we experience God’s love by setting aside time to receive, rest in, and savor God’s love. We will no longer feel so alone, afraid, or anxious. We will, feel heard and seen; believe that we belong, are secure, and more stable. Resting in and abiding in God’s infinite love helps us to experience more peace, freedom, and hope. Being known and loved also helps us to see each person we encounter less defensively and more lovingly. The more of God’s love we are willing to receive, the more will give, and the more love we share, the more we will receive!

Photo: Breathing, receiving, resting, and abiding in God’s love at the chapel in Our Lady of Florida Spiritual Center.

Quote from St. Teresa of the Andes from pp. 384-385, Magnificat, Vol. 28, No. 6, August.

Link for the Mass readings for Thursday, August 27, 2026

With Jesus, may we pay a little more attention to the inside.

Jesus said, “Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, you hypocrites. You are like whitewashed tombs, which appear beautiful on the outside, but inside are full of dead men’s bones and every kind of filth. Even so, on the outside you appear righteous, but inside you are filled with hypocrisy and evildoing” (Mt 23:27-28).

How many of us spend an inordinate amount of time regarding physical externals? Washing, makeup, the right clothes, the correct scents, teeth whitening, plucking, nipping, and tucking. How about time spent exercising through gym memberships, home exercise equipment, physical trainers, sports, stretching, running, or cycling. How about time spent towards a career through education, updating, professional learning, seminars, webinars, and networking. There are other categories that I can add, and the point is that there is not anything necessarily wrong with any of the above when they are properly ordered and each is in a healthy balance.

Yet, if external activities and how we define ourselves externally are all we are investing our time and energy in, then Jesus has a point. We may “appear beautiful on the outside” with great looks, a body that doesn’t quit, and a career to die for, but what is going on inside? Are we empty, unfulfilled, achieving goal after goal, yet feeling adrift or hollowed out? Do we have all the right social skills and etiquette down, know the right things to say in public, we have friends in the hundreds or thousands on our social media accounts, yet we feel alone and not a part of anything meaningful?

Worse yet, do we go to Church, say the right prayers, are active in ministry, tithe, are members of boards, involved in the community, and doing some great works of charity, but when the door is closed, and no one is looking… what kind of “hypocrisy and evil doing” are we up to? It is easy to rest in a false sense of security while Jesus chews out the scribes and the Pharisees, right now, yet, do Jesus’ words have an effect on us if we allow his light to shine also on the imperfections and shadow sides of us as well.

We can spend our time whitewashing the outside, projecting a perfect image, while chasing finite and material pursuits alone, which will more than likely leave us still feeling anxious, restless, unsatisfied, and worn out. Maintaining and protecting a false image on any level is exhausting. Instead, we can take a good look at the time we invest, where we focus our energies, examine our conscience, and assess the health of our relationship with God, family,  significant friendships, our vocation instead of occupation, and our service to those within and beyond our intimate circle.

Instead of expending energy maintaining a perfect persona, we will do better to be in touch with our weaknesses, our faults, wounds, and poverty of spirit, so that we can resist defending or rationalizing and seek healing, reconciliation, and transformation. By doing so, we may be more accepting, patient, understanding, and forgiving of others because we will come to realize that we are not all that perfect, the world does not revolve around us, and we are in need of help.

The path lit by Jesus will reveal our imperfections and sins and also will help us to distinguish between apparent goods and what is authentic and truly good. When we can step off the treadmill of chronic stress, come to a stop… breathe… press pause, we will begin to experience our vulnerabilities, insecurities, and fears. When we allow Jesus into those places and ask him for strength, forgiveness and healing, we will experience the peace, love, and rest we have been made for. We can rest in just being, just being ourselves and loved by God as we are, imperfections and all – no whitewash necessary.

Photo: Sending some quiet time while the sun was setting to reflect on where I can improve and need God’s help and healing, and thanking him for what I did well with his help.

Link for the Mass readings for Wednesday, August 26, 2026

As we give of ourselves in service, we experience humility and love.

“The greatest among you must be your servant. Whoever exalts himself will be humbled; but whoever humbles himself will be exalted” (Mt 23:11-12).

Jesus warns us to resist the sin of pride, and hubris, where we place ourselves as the focal point instead of God. This happens when we seek to be the center of the gravitational pull within our realm of influence. Through our subtle and not so subtle actions, we can embrace this temptation to live a life of, “Look at me, look at me!” Desiring to be affirmed is not a bad thing but that ought not to be our primary motivation for our actions. Ultimately, we will be better served when we seek our affirmation from God.

Choosing our own self-determination free of God’s guidance is the height of pride. God does not seek to limit us but to inspire us so that we may actualize the fullness of who he has created us to be. St Mother Teresa often guided her sisters not to seek to do great things but to do little things with great love. I came across a cassette tape of one of her talks during my freshman year of college. Her words, such as, “Let us always meet each other with a smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.”, started to plant a seed in my soul that urged me to look out beyond myself toward others.

Growing up with an introverted and shy nature, I spent much of my youth in my own world and spent more time with myself than others. The invitation to change that perspective would happen during my second semester of that same year. I took a psychology course and thought it would be interesting to work in a hospital. A close friend of mine, Steve, shared with me that his mother was a nurse in a nursing home in our hometown. That summer, when the semester ended, I applied for the job as a certified nursing assistant and was hired.

The first resident I assisted was named Margaret, age somewhere in her 90’s. She rolled passed me in her wheelchair and a particular odor followed. The aide I was training with caught my eye and I realized this would be my first solo attempt of service. I redirected and guided her to the toilet, which was in a small closet-sized area in between two adjoining bedrooms. It was a particularly hot day, and as I removed Margaret’s depends, I found quite the surprise. For the next fifteen minutes as I cleaned her up, I sweat, teared up, and repeatedly fought back the urge to gag, all the while Margaret – sang. Once finished and in a fresh nightgown, I helped her into her bed, tucked her in, and then Margaret said, “Give me a kiss lover.”

Others may have run for the door and never looked back. I stayed, and for the next four or five years, I experienced the wonderful gift of building relationships with the many residents and coworkers who drew me out of myself. What started out as a job became an extended family, and I served them with great joy.

God presents us with opportunities daily. We can choose to curve in upon ourselves or we can risk being present for and give of ourselves to others. Let us resist the urge to be led by anxiety or fear and instead pray for the courage to be open to the opportunities to extend the grace God offers us to serve in little ways with great love, one person, one encounter at a time. I pray that you may encounter your Margaret! For Margaret helped me to live what St Mother Teresa taught me: “Love only can become our light and joy in cheerful service of each other” (Teresa 2010, 355).

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Photo: The model of humility! Mary our queen and mother, please pray for us!

Mother Teresa. Where There Is Love, There is God. Edited by Brian Kolodiejchuck, M.C. NY: Doubleday, 2010.

Link for the Mass readings for Saturday, August 22, 2026

Let us open our hearts and minds to receive and enter into the dance of God’s love!

When the Pharisees heard that Jesus had silenced the Sadducees, they gathered together, and one of them, a scholar of the law, tested him by asking, “Teacher, which commandment in the law is the greatest?” He said to him, “You shall love the Lord, your God, with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the greatest and the first commandment. The second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. The whole law and the prophets depend on these two commandments.” (Mt 22:34-40).

Jesus, in response, was not just throwing up a cloud of theological dust into the eyes of the Pharisees. His answer to, “which commandment in the law is the greatest?” was drawn directly from the Torah. Showing again his knowledge of the Torah. Jesus quoted from Deuteronomy 6:5 and Leviticus 19:18 and merged the two verses together as one unit. His purpose was to emphasize the point that what is to be the greatest aspiration for humanity is to love God and to love our neighbor as ourselves, not either/or. Jesus again was showing that he did not come to abolish the law and the prophets, but that he came to fulfill them (cf. Mt 5:17).

In this statement, Jesus also revealed the foundation of reality, the Trinitarian communion of love. For the immanence of God – God within himself – has always been, always is, and always will be a communion of love. God the Father loves the Son, God the Son receives the Father’s love and in return loves God the Father holding nothing back, and God the Holy Spirit is the love expressed and shared between God the Father and God the Son. The overflow and abundance of this perichoresis, or divine dance of trinitarian communion, has been the loving of creation into existence.

This means that we as God’s created beings, his children, have been loved into existence too! We are willed into existence and loved by God our Father and so capable of loving God and one another in return. This love mirrors on earth the love that is shared in Heaven. It is through our participation in the life of Jesus that we can live up to his command to love our enemies, wonderfully expressed in the parable of the Good Samaritan (Lk 10:29-37).

This is why prayer is so important. If we don’t get our relationship with God right, if we don’t spend time with and allow ourselves to rest, receive, and abide in his love, we will not be able to return the love we have received, and then how can we truly love ourselves and each other? When we do get the love of God right, we and our realm of influence changes. We can experience that peace that surpasses all understanding, and we can find the rest, that rest within the depths of our souls that we all seek. This peace, love, and rest we can then share with God and one another.

We can do so in simple but powerful ways. When we catch the eye of another – smile. This small gift can make such difference in another’s life. If someone says, “How are you today?” say, “Better that you asked.” When you are with someone be there as if they were the only person in the world. Go out of your way to do some random acts of kindness, especially for that someone who ordinarily and regularly gets under your skin.

Picture: Today – Perichoresis! Let us breathe, rest, receive, and abide in and participate in the dance of God’s trinitarian love, and let his love reign free in our lives to overflowing.

Link for the Mass readings for Friday, August 21, 2026